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Hi Oloni, I just started my first job ever in a supermarket. I wanna save up because I’m going to uni in September and I don’t want to be broke or a fraudster lol. Anyway I always felt like my manager is always flirting with me but our staff Christmas party confirmed this. We were talking, she lived near me so she said she’ll drop me home, I ended up going to her place and laying some pipe. The next day one of my colleagues that’s been here longer than me was saying that I took advantage of her because of her condition. Apparently she has mental health issues. I didn’t know about her issues but my colleague is saying she’s going to report me to HR. I’ve never really spoken to this girl so I don’t know why she’s trying to violate like this. I don’t feel I did anything wrong other than sleeping with a colleague. Am I in the wrong in this situation or is my manger? I’m 17 and she’s in her 20’s btw.
23. December 2017
Oh wow that’s messy, but how were you to know she had mental health issues? Either way I think your other colleague needs to mind her own business. You’re both consensual adults in the UK and from what you’ve described this was something you agreed to equally.
Oloni
hi oloni me and my bf have been in a relationship for a while and it’s going well. Since we started doing it I’ve stopped masturbating just cos i haven’t felt the need to, but he still does, does this mean that I’m not satisfying him or is it normal?
23. December 2017
It’s perfectly normal
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Hey Oloni, my man and I have been together for over 2 years but his ex is still bugging. She was a huge part out of his life but I’m 100% it’s over and that he’s moved on. However she won’t let go. She herself has got a man but won’t leave mine alone. I’ve talked to her & to her man as well and I’m at loss.
21. December 2017
Why are you in contact with his ex and her bf? The only person you should be addressing is your man. If you feel like she’s getting in the way, ask your boyfriend to set boundaries as it makes you uncomfortable.
Oloni
Hello Oloni. Is allowing a guy to grind/hump his groin against yours when you are both fully clothed until he reaches his peak , considered as losing your virginity?
21. December 2017
No hun
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Similar to the boogie situation that I’ve read on here my man has a slight hygiene problem. He has serious BO after sex and I don’t know what to suggest. Prior to sex etc he’s fine- his natural scent is nice, but when he starts sweating it’s all over. I don’t know how to directly say you smell. Usually I’ll suggest we shower after sex together or I’ll open the windows, but how do I tell him that his sweat stinks!! I bought some deodorant and was going to jokingly suggest he apply before we get freaky but my friends said that’s so rude. Any suggestions on what I can do.. I don’t want to hurt his ego but at the same time… surely he knows?
21. December 2017
Sex in itself, is full of it’s own scent, so it’s normal for there to be an after smell on the both of you. However, this doesn’t mean it should be “bad” stench. Talk to your boo hun, before you have sex next, just explain what you’ve noticed. Your partner, can’t and shouldn’t get mad when you communicate something regarding hygiene. It may hurt, but I’m sure he’ll be glad you told him. You cannot come and kill yourself, due to how he smells after sex. Be honest.
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