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Hey sis, my husband found a flirty message between a colleague and I. I told him it was nothing and that is the honest truth. He now wants to separate and I am truly heartbroken. What is your advice?
1. March 2024
Ooh gosh now you know better. But honestly you’re going to have to respect his feelings and give him some space. Perhaps talk to someone you trust or a licensed therapist for help. Ask if he’s open to marriage counselling after giving him some space.
i do hope you work it out
Hi Oloni, I am currently sleeping with a guy, who was chasing me for years while I was in a relationship. My ex and I broke up months ago. I never thought in a million years, I would give this new dude a chance and now I’m catching feelings. Am I rushing? It’s all new to me.
1. March 2024
It could be a rebound, it might not. Either way I say take your time and try not to rush anything. Be extremely patient with your feelings, if it’s meant to be time will tell, right?
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend has a baby mama. But occasionally she cooks food and calls him over to eat even late in the night. They sometimes go out to party together and when I asked him what’s going on, he said that relationship with the baby mama is good for their son. I am very confused about the whole situation.
29. February 2024
Yeah you either tell him what your boundaries are or leave. I’d suggest the latter, cus if she’s feeding him.. guess what? She’s .. chile.
oloni
I’m in my 30s dating a man who is in his 50s. We are trying to have sex, but his penis is not erecting though he is horny. What can we do about it?
29. February 2024
Tell him to get some medical attention. It’s more common than you’d think.
I have been seeing a guy since the end of last year. We have consistently been in touch since then, meeting up on numerous occasions. However, when I last spoke to him, which was last week, he mentioned he has been busy with work and feeling stressed out. It has now been a week since our last conversation. Should I give him space and hope he will reach out, or do you have any other suggestions?
29. February 2024
Forget him he’s no longer interested
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