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Hey Oloni, I’m 2 months pregnant for a guy that I was seeing and he’s recently told me he wants nothing to do with the baby or anything at all, I however am not ready for an abortion. If he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby then that’s ultimately his decision, but I’ve been told it is the nigerian way to go to his parents house and inform them (I’m not nigerian). Since he’s told me he’s not ready to support the child is there still any point in me informing his parents? Or shall I just leave him and his family out of it all? Pls help x
29. July 2015
Culture or not, there’s nothing wrong with you informing his family about your new pregnancy, even if he decides to be there or not. His family have a right to know their son has a child on the way.
oloni im not gonna lie i dunno if im falling in like with this guy because the sex is absolutely 100% A1 or because hes nice and that, coz he is nice lol ? how can i tell? x
29. July 2015
Spend more time with him.
Hi Oloni. I haven’t has sex for some years by choice and recently decided to get back into it with my new partner. It is the most painful thing. This has happened a few times now and we never get past one round because it’s so painful. I have no STI’s or vaginal infections what can I do to make sex more pleasurable? My partner says he understands but slyly I think he thinks I’m not attracted to him or he doesn’t turn me on because of some things he says in passing.
27. July 2015
Try to relax before you go for other rounds. Make sure you’re including foreplay and don’t forger the lube. If you’re still feeling pains go to your clinic assp.
Hiya Oloni, I’ve just come out of a relationship where I was giving everything and getting nothing back I’ve finally let that go and want to get back into dating and meeting new guy’s but don’t know how to?
27. July 2015
I did a whole webinar on this last night. Where were you?
Hey Oloni, I’m 17 and 11 weeks pregnant. After nights of crying I’ve decided to keep my baby. Two days ago I heard my parents talking in their room, my dad was telling my mum that i need to “get rid” of my pregnancy cus both of us cant be pregnant at the same time. Basically ive just found ouut that my mum is also with child . She has no idea i heard that convo, today she told me that I’m moving to Nigeria till i give birth and need to give the child up for adoption. I’m scared oloni i don’t have any family or many trust worthy friends to turn to.
27. July 2015
Oh wow! It sounds as though your mother & father do not want to deal with what they see as shame as you’ll both be having a child around the same time. First thing is first. If you haven’t, tell them you heard the conversation and discuss it. If leaving and giving your child up for adoption is not an option then speak up about it. No one can force you to give up another soul YOU created. You will need a lot of support, so I suggest you try & get as much info from your council as possible and see what help you can get in case things do not work out. If you need to speak more do e-mail me itsoloni@gmail.com
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