Hi, would love to get your views on a situation… I have been with my partner for over a year now & live together. He has been sent to prison for 3 months, we both knew this was coming & prepared for it. I as a loyal woman have every intention of standing by him while his away, however I recently found out he had cheated on me just before he was locked up!! I’m hurt & annoyed but at the same time I would hate to turn my back on him at this particular time. What are your thoughts please! Thanks x
8. August 2015
He is in prison and has cheated on you. Please move on with your life, there is more to it.
Hi Oloni, I have been seeing this guy for almost 9 months now, and I really like him (he also claims to like me too which is very evident), however he has made it clear to me that he doesn’t want a relationship. I am the only girl he is seeing and i’m with him almost every other day; yet still no progression…. I do not entertain other guys and a part of me feels like i am wasting my time …. What should I do?
8. August 2015
You are wasting your time. If he likes you as much as he says he does he’d have no problem making sure you were his. 9 months is far too long. Call it quits.
My boyfriend knows the password to all of my devices but gets defensive when I ask for his. He’s rarely on his phone around me. He says that’s he doesn’t want me to have his password because I’ll look for things and try to pick fights with him over nothing which I have done in the past, I’ll admit. He’s cheated on me once before a long time ago. We’re in a really good space and happy together but I don’t know if I should be worried? Thanks for your help.
8. August 2015
You don’t need the password to his property, however if he has nothing to hide their should’t be anything to pick a fight about unless he’s having inappropriate conversations with women. I sounds like you don’t trust him and you’re quite suspicious of his behaviour so discuss it instead of acting like it doesn’t exist.
I normally don’t give in to “come chill with me” boys but after a bad break up (we’ve been over for months now) and haven spoken to this guy for some time. I thought why not. A few hours into us chilling I realised I may have made a mistake as we walked upstairs to go watch Netflix. About 20 minutes into the film, we were kissing and ended up hooking up. I’m now confused as to whether I should ask him what’s next and if it was just a smash or whether I could leave it; continue to see him and talk as I’m not even looking for a relationship right now. (Moral to this story: Netflix and chill never is just Netflix and chill)
8. August 2015
Couch dates are not the greatest, but you should talk to him and ask to meet up outside both your houses. If he makes an effort then you know it;s more than what happened that one evening.
Hi Oloni, please help, my friend is in a bad relationship. Her boyfriend ignores her for weeks, baitly cheats on her, has pictures and snaps with other girls constantly and she keeps going back to him. I’ve tried to be the supportive, non-bitter friend by listening, advising her but not being forceful with my idea that she should end things but it’s got ridiculous. He will be holding girls in his snap then if she says something he dumps her for moaning too much, I cheer her up, wipe her tears, try and give her strength to be without him and 2 days later she’s back with him. What do I do? Do I continue to be a supportive friend or do I shake her and tell her he’s cheating on her and she needs to get some divinity and stay away. The boy treats her like shit and I’m so fed up with it. Please help
8. August 2015
You have to let her sort out her own relationship. However if you do not want to be involved when things go pear shaped you have to explain this also. So many women are in codependent relationships and use their friends to fall back on repeatedly. It’s unfair and not your responsibility. Let her know that you will continue being there, but not like this. You can’t and wont be the person who she can discuss her relationship woes with any longer.
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