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8. August 2015
hi oloni, i hope you had a good birthday.i need your help. my boyfriend says he loves me all the time, but i am not convinced. i just don’t get that feeeling of secriuity with him. at times i feel our relationship is forced, and he’s just with me because he does not want to be alone. He’s a very shy boy and seems insecure so sometimes i felt like he jumped at a chnace to have a girlfriend when i started talking to him. i found out he got with me soon after he broke up with his EX, so sometimes feel i am a rebound. also, when we go out i notice him looking at other girls, so i feel that he’s just with me until he finds someone better. i’ve tried to talk to him when i’m feeling at a lost with our relationship, but he just says he doesn’t want to lose me and starts getting emotional. he even threatened suicide. however , it comes across fake, as it’s over dramatic and i feel it is just his way of making me feel sorry for him so he is not alone. what should i do ?
8. August 2015
This clearly sounds like things aren’t working out. If you’re second guessing yourself perhaps you should leave the relationship. If he’s considering suicide it may be best you get him some help as that’s very unhealthy.
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend has “provocative women” on his snapchat… Like ones he doesn’t even know, but they do nude snaps and stuff. I’ve told him I don’t like it and he deleted them, but now they’re back. What should I do? Am I overreacting?
4. August 2015
Talk to him about it, if he deleted it the first time because of how you expressed your feelings on the matter, then why are they back? He’s being disrespectful about your wishes.
Hey Oloni, I just recently ended things with my girlfriend over distance issues but before that she wanted me to disvirgin her but I couldn’t cuz I feel ashamed about the size of my *thing* and as such even in past relationships, I always avoid sex cuz I don’t know if I can satisfy a girl properly and just feel terrible about myself. I also can’t confine in anyone cuz quite frankly its embarrassing but the whole thing has been eating me up.
4. August 2015
You shouldn’t feel ashamed of the size of your penis. As long as you know HOW to use it and make the experience pleasurable. Some guys have the dick the size of the empire state and have no clue on how to use it.
Hi oloni, congrats on the new success of being featured in another mag, i am currently in a relationship, everything is going great, my partner has asked me to move into his flat as I spend majority time there anyways, however for some months now he hasn’t spent as much “down” time with me as he used to, I see him in the mornings before he leaves maybe for 10 mins during the day and then when he comes home when either one of/ or both of us are extremely tired or he’s getting ready to go back out.. Now when I’m away from him he will message saying how attached he is, how he wants me by his side, but his actions are proving otherwise it’s almost like he doesn’t even want to spend the day with me anymore, anytime he gets some “free” time it’s like he has to find absolutely anything else to do then be with me.. I love him and I have no doubt he loves me but I don’t think I can go on like this? Am I overreacting ? What should I do? Please help.
4. August 2015
It sounds like he’s taking your presence for granted. Speak up, talk to him and let him know how you feel. Once you have spoken give it a few weeks and see if things change. Hopefully the discussion you have will allow his actions to match his words. Another thing? Unless you’re AT LEAST engaged you really shouldn’t be living together. It’s not always the best ideas for couples who aren’t at that level of commitment. It creates situations like this.
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