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Hi Oloni, Ok so my boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago because of his silly insecurities. He was so insecure with the male attention that i get that he always thought that something is or will happen between me and any male i encounter lool. Based on his past relationships i can definately say his exes are to blame for his insecurity (as they cheated on him numerous times). Anyway a little after he broke up with me he came to apologise for the way he ended things, he asked if we could remain friends which i agreed to as i accepted his apology. We havent really spoken since we decided to stay friends but recently I went out and I posted a pic on social media. Bare in mind we hadnt spoken in a while but he decided to show his appreciation for the way i looked on social media, tbh he could have messaged me or better yet @ me but he decided to post various tweets about how good i looked. ive also ran into a few of his friends lately and it seems he hadnt informed them of our break up which i dont get why. i dont know whether he was just being nice by complimenting me or he has a hidden agenda. i still love him but i dont want to fool myself and start reading into things too deep and end up giving myself false hope. what should i do? and what do u think of his complimentary tweets? xx
25. July 2015
It’s hard to work out why he hasn’t informed his friends. He may not have had the right time to let them know. As for his tweets, that was to get your attention, and look.. It worked. Give it more time, if he wants to make it work. He will pick up the phone.
Hey oloni.I got bullied in high school so my self esteem and confidence is terrible.I have never had a bf but a few weeks a go I met this guy at my sisters birthday meal.He made me feel so special.He was telling me how cute I was and that I can accomplish anything I want in life but he also said that I need self confidence.He is also said I was too soft and that would attract bullies to bully me.Everything he was saying was true! Im not good at communicating with people so I was very quiet and awkward around him.So I made out with him so that it wouldn’t be awkward any more.He told me to take my clothes off.Thats when i panicked and told him I was still a virgin and he said he doesnt want to be the one to take it from me.I haven’t seen or spoken to him since because I dont have his number.Did i mess everything up? or do you think he was going to use me for sex? I cant stop thinking about him.
25. July 2015
If he cared he would have tried to keep in contact.
Hey Oloni, I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of months and I think he gave me a STI. I got myself tested before I got with him so I know its definitely not me. I’m not sure how to tell him about this, please help
25. July 2015
I was tweeting about this last night. Safe sex is so important. Even if you’re in a relationship. You have to tell him, because sexual transmitted infections do not fall out of the sky. Sit down and have a conversation with him about it.
Hi Oloni, I’ve bought a ticket for your webinar and was wondering if you’ll be discussing things to talk about on a date. I’ve been on two dates with a guy and we’ll be going on a third and we’ve spoken about past relationships, favourite things etc and I’m not much of a conversationalist so I’m lost on what we can speak about when there are those awkward silences, if it won’t be in your webinar what are some suggestions you have please x
25. July 2015
THANK YOU for getting a ticket! I appreciate you & since you’ve asked I will answer & give you tips tomorrow night. I hope that’s fine?
Ive been talking to this guy for a few months who I met through a friend. It’s nothing serious, we have just been chatting. We are both physically attracted to each other and eventually the conversation led towards sex. Being the upfront person that I am, I asked him to clarify whether this was just sex or he could see us actually hanging out (either way I wasn’t fussed). He said for now that it was just sex but he thought I was cool and eventually it may lead to something, to which I agreed. Now a few days after this conversation he seems to resent the fact that I was so okay with the situation and thinks im using him for sex. Im really confused as to why he is reacting like this when this is what he put on the table in the first place. I’m not sure whether he is starting to like me a little more and just sex isnt enough or whether he just has an unstable personality lol.
24. July 2015
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