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Hey oloni, I’ve been working as a bartender for 8 months now, at the start there was this one security guard who always would say hey to me. Then after he started dropping me home after work, then he started giving me money, buying me things, telling me that he loves me so much. And he’s been telling people at work how much he loves me and he wants to be with me. I don’t love him and I feel so bad because I though I would love him someday but I can’t, so in this situation what should i do? I don’t want him feeling like I’ve been using him.
14. July 2015
You explain to him that you’re no longer interested and move on.
I have stretch marks and this makes me feel really uncomfortable to even have sex with my bf,what should I do? What if he’s disgusted by them?
14. July 2015
A high percentage of women have stretch marks, you’re insecure about being normal. You should always have sex with someone you feel comfortable about, so have a conversation with him about it.
Hi Oloni, it’s the girl in the QOTD’15year old sleeping with 22year old. After reading all of the replies on the tl, I feel like I need to elaborate more and sort of explain myself. I ended the relationship myself because I knew it was wrong after a while. I guess it just felt nice having an older boyfriend who would pick me up from school in his car (although he made me tell everyone he was an older friend) he made me lie to all my friends, telling me they would be jealous if they found out. It’s like after a while I just woke up and realised it was wrong. I used to cry myself to sleep thinking that I was dirty, a slag and a whore. I wanted to go to the police or my family, but thought that people would not believe me, as he is a very persuasive person. My friends found out when I was 17 and been pushing ever since, even saying they would report it themselves, but didn’t after I begged them not too. My family do not know to this day and I don’t want them to find out, because I feel ashamed and dirty, and I am scared they won’t believe me. For this reason, I have decided not to go to the police. Thank you for your advice.
14. July 2015
Thanks for coming back to explain. He clearly took advantage and manipulated you. Your friends however shouldn’t be pressuring you or taking it into their own hands. Whilst I understand their concern for their friend, it’s not their place.
Hi Oloni, when I was 15 I was in a sexual relationship that lasted a few months with a 22year old man who was fully aware of my age. I am now 19 and understand that this was wrong. My friends are pushing me to go to the police however I don’t want to. They are telling me that it’s a form of rape but the sex was consensual on both parts. It was 4years ago and I just want to leave it in the past. What shall I do?
13. July 2015
I agree with your friends as he was having sex with a minor, however it’s completely up to you with how you want to treat the situation.
Hi, I broke up with and cut off an ex who did me wrong a while back. Wasn’t abusive but treated me like crap. Recently I’ve been seein that he is going through some things and id like to reach out and help him as a friend. I worry he’s spiralling and there’s no one there to help him. But I’m reluctant cause I did so much for him that went completely unappreciated I felt like I’d sold my soul to make him happy and it was draining. I don’t want to give the impression that he can treat me however and I’ll still be there but I also don’t like seeing him the way he is. Any advice? Maybe QOTD too
13. July 2015
I understand you want to help him, but you have to ask yourself whether or not it’s a good idea. You’re no longer his concern and honestly, you should act that way. If you did all the things you said whilst you were together, you’re only going back to something that may end up hurting yourself. It’s not a great choice.
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