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Hi, I’ve been talking to this guy for a short period of time and something just doesn’t sit right with me. I’m just taking it at a steady pace, trying to get know him more and suss him out. My problem is that he comes across as the possessive type to the point where I’m actually scared. The reason being is that he questions who my male friends are (I don’t have many) and those are childhood friends. I’m starting to see things in him that I don’t like as a result of this – the accusations are really uncalled for and I’m baffled because we aren’t even together. I thought he was a reasonably nice guy up until now. At first I thought it was a joke and waited for the haha bit but now it’s just -__-. If my phone is busy he will send me a screenshot of it. I think I have my answer on what I should do but what’s your take on this?
7. July 2015
My take is that this clear red sign is telling you to find the closest exit. Even if he was your boyfriend, acting like that is still very scary. Quite insecure actually.
Hi oloni! My dilemma is this: last year I was seeing this guy & it was pretty serious for me but he wasn’t all that interested in a serious relationship with me. I fell pregnant & when I told him he then told me had a girlfriend. Fast forward just over a year and he’s still with his girlfriend and I’m still in love with him.. He told me he’s never been as unhappy as he is with her and he said when we were together we had fun and he enjoyed my company. I know I’m dumb and I should just move on but a big part of me just wants us to be together and a family. Do I try for him or let it go???
7. July 2015
Let it go. You are more than ‘fun’ and ‘great’ or ‘good company’. If he wanted to be without her… He would. Couples who have been married for 10 years get a divorced once they’re unhappy. What’s really stopping his dishonest self from leaving his so called unhappy relationship? Don’t waste your time. He’s a joke and you need to try to meet other people.
Dear oloni, I’ve been dating thisw guy for a while and I think he uses sex as a weapon. Without going into detail, he used to go down on me all the time, but one time he started going really slow almost hesitant. I freaked out because I thought something was wrong down there and he just laughed. He hasn’t gone down since though. I have a pretty high sex drive and he told me did too. But now it’s like sex every couple of days. It’s freaking me out and messing with my self confidence, but I think he finds I
7. July 2015
You should really just tell him this. If it’s getting to you, ask him what’s up. Listen to what he has to say, but make sure you ask the right questions.
Such as ‘Hey Peter, I wanted to know if everything is okay between us sexually? I’ve noticed that…xyz’
Hi, I’ve been seeing this guy for a year now and we still haven’t progressed into a relationship. We talk everyday on the phone and get along really well . He is always asking me to do things for him however he never does anything for me . I’m unsure if he actually likes me or whether he just uses me because I’m convenient. I don’t know if I should stop talking to him as I really seeing us progressing. Maybe he doesn’t have the funds to treat me however that’s not a problem I just wish he’d tell me rather than me thinking he doesn’t care about me
6. July 2015
Drop him, this guy is not here to stay.
Hi Oloni, I’m a young male who has never been in a relationship however I have been actively looking. My problem is that all females seem to have an issue or don’t like aspects of me such as religion, height, skin tone (yes skin tone), and myself being well-spoken. And it seems like that I’m just “Nice Guy But…” kind of guy. What would you suggest I do?
5. July 2015
Come to my soiree 🙂 https://simplyoloni.com/product/simply-olonis-mingling-soiree-tickets-for-men-2/
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