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Hi oloni me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two three months now but we were very good friends before. Before we officially got together we knew we liked each other and had sex and all this while he was pursuing other girls whilst having me think I was the only one because he claimed to have “commitment issues”. Obviously I wasn’t aware of what he was doing but distanced myself away from him when I found out. He then decided to drop the other girls because he wanted to be with me and I agreed to it after making him work for a while. Anyway my dilemma is he still chats to one of the girls he was chatting to before he also never opens their chat when I’m around but is very open and okay with me reading anyone else’s conversations. Should I be worried or am I just being insecure and paranoid
1. July 2015
If it bothers you tell him how you feel & express what you’ve noticed. See what he says.
Hey Oloni, I hope you get to see this, I know how busy it can busy it can be on hear. Do you think 21 is too young to be doing online dating? Thing is I’m super shy and the whole letting a guy know I’m interested is a myth to me. I don’t have many friends and like I said I’m super shy. Should online dating be the last stretch for me? Thanks.
1. July 2015
21 is not too young, plus it can help boost your confidence.
Hey Oloni Ive been with my Mr for 3 years n he confessed that he cheated on me twice. Since finding this out he’s adamant that they were both mistakes because he was on two minds about whether he still wanted to be in this relationship with me. After doing what he did he realised that it was one of the biggest mistakes he’s made. Ok… I’m willing to forgive him but I’ve got this thing niggling in the back of my mind that it might happen again and I don’t even know what steps to take to start this process of forgiving him. If he’s willing to spend time making it up to me and I’m willing to move on is it worth it?
30. June 2015
Only you know if it’s worth it. I don’t know what the nature of your relationship is like. Is he a good boyfriend? Is this something you can move past? Will you be able to trust him? Cheating once shows uncertainty, but twice? You need to have a serious conversation
Hey oloni. I met this guy at an event and we really hit it off. Turned into dms then texting (which I initiated) but I always seem to start convo first which is kinda bugging me. I feel like I’m annoying him. I’ve never made moves on a guy before and now I feel odd. I am a old fashioned guy should court a girl girl but I do understand that mutual effort is there. Now the table has turned! Should I carry on talking to him and even suggest going out? Or step back a big since he seems to be airing me in the middle of convos(which are great btw)
30. June 2015
He doesn’t seem interested, but do NOT let this discourage you, continue doing what you’re doing and you will get a result.
Hey Oloni, ****NEED HELP!**** I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years it’s been a good relationship he is my first love he treats me well. We’ve had our ups and downs but we’ve got through it all. I’ve stuck by him in situations you wouldn’t even believe. He comes from a troubled past but he’s always been good to me. Recently i found out that he had committed a heinous crime, I know he’s changed and he’s not like that anymore but I can’t get over what he’s done. I can’t continue in our relationship knowing what he’s done. I can’t even hold a conversation with him properly knowing that he’s done what he has. I don’t think I can get over it either. I love him and he loves me even more than I do but I have to end this relationship. How do I go about it? Make it clear that we can’t be together.
30. June 2015
You have to sit him down and have conversation about it, open up to him and allow him to know what’s on your mind exactly. Then explain that for this you can’t continue with the relationship.
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