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My boyfriend complains that I don’t give him oral sex enough. Truthfully, I love to do it but he just has really bad hygiene and it bothers me. How do I tell him without being mean about it?
23. July 2015
You have to speak up and be honest about it. You’re in a relationship so the bond between you and your partner means it should easier to express how you feel. Help him sort out his hygiene by finding the right toiletries for him.
Hey Oloni my half brother met his girlfriend of two years through me. She’s actually my best friend, we’ve known each other for over 15 years. Here’s the dilemma I recently found out he’s been cheating on her and not with women Oloni.. Men. She can tell something is up but do I say anything? She’s like my sister.
21. July 2015
It sucks you’re in the middle of it all, but you do have to stay out of it, despite the closeness between you and your friend. What I will advise is that you speak to your brother because of this unfair position you’re placed in. What you don’t want is your friend planning a wedding one day, not knowing she’s dating someone who’s probably gay and disoyal. Speaking up to him gives him the chance to do the right thing.
Hi Oloni. I recently found out my boyfriend has been lying about his age (After preeing). He claims to be a year younger than he actually is. When i met him he said he was 24 then later said he was 23 and its remained so till now. The annoying thing is I don’t even care about his age its the fact that he’s lying about it. Ive indirectly confronted him about it like 3 times but he denies it and waves it away. what’s worrying is that he’s an international student (im a home student) and I feel the lie may be because he’s got a different reason for starting the relationship (if you get me). I dont know what to do. I don’t want to turn this into a fight and be wrong.
21. July 2015
You have to try and have a direct conversation about it. Let him know it’s bothering you before you make your own assumptions. If nothing develops from the talk it’s up to you decide what to do.
Hi Oloni, me and this guy i was seeing ended things a few months ago as he said he wasnt ready to fully commit (and i was). I took it hard initially, but after months of emotional rollercoasters ive focussed more on myself and movin onto better things but every now and again i get the urge to reconnect with him and this feeling has been quite prominent recently. He does pop up occassionally which doesnt help, what advice would you give to keep me on track to finding someone new?
20. July 2015
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Hi oloni (could this be made private and not shared on various social mediums please) Recently I started talking to my friends ex who she dated 4years ago. As she was young, she informed me that they only kissed and didn’t get much further than that and they didn’t date for long as she dumped him for another guy. Anyway on my second introduction to my friends ex,(my friend and her ex are really good friends btw) we kissed and my friend caught us. She asked me about it and I awkwardly avoided the question because I was just too embarrassed, but she knew. A couple of days after my friends ex asked my friend for my number which I said it was cool for her to give him. I confirmed with her and she said it was ok that she no longer had feelings for the guy and she didn’t care what happened between us. So me and the guy have met up a couple of times and although at first he was sort of a rebound for me, I’m actually starting to like him. Now my friend has said that she doesn’t like the fact that we are seeing each other and cannot believe that two of her close friends could do this to her and that as her friend I never should have asked her if it was ok to see her ex in the first place. I understand I am sort of in the wrong for this because at the end of the day they’re each other’s ex’s but i feel like the statute of limitations has passed because they dated so long ago. Am I wrong for this? Thank you
20. July 2015
Please remember that there is a disclaimer at the top of Ask Oloni. Once you submit a question, I will do my best to give my advice & opinion on the matter, but there will always be a possibility that it will be made public anonymously on social media platforms.
You need to have another conversation with your friend, it sounds like she never thought things would move forward with you & her ex so the reality has just hit her. Now it’s down to you decide what’s more important, the guy or your friendship?
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