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Been with my boyfriend 1yr & have been financially supporting him most. He arranges for me to spend the night, theb goes out with his mates leaving me at his house. He says he won’t be gone long, then comes back at 4/5am. I’ve spent the whole night alone .
11. August 2015
He’s taking you for granted and you know so too. This behaviour isn’t normal and you need to bring it to his attention asap. What is he doing at 4/5am if he’s not going to be ‘too long’? You also need to stop financially supporting him that isn’t your role as a girlfriend.
Hi Oloni, I have been with mypartner for almost two years now. In February he cheated on mewith someone else, I decided to forgive himas I believed it was judt a one off and maybe he needed to experiment (he’s 18). But recently he has followed the girl he slept with on Instagram, and has been liking her photos, what shall I do?
11. August 2015
Do not make excuses for him, he cheated and was disloyal. Have a conversation with him. It’s very inappropriate.
Hi Oloni. When I tell my boyfriend I love him, he doubts me and says no you don’t. What can I do to prove to him that I love him. Apart form telling him I try and show him through planned date nights, giving him my time and trying to meet his emotional needs. I don’t know what else to do.
11. August 2015
If you’re doing all the things you’ve mentioned, you must now ask why he feels you don’t love him in your next discussion. Has something happened in the past for him to feel this way? Talk about it.
Hi Oloni, I am 18 yrs old and t=think I am ready to date and should be allowed to. I have had a bf when I was and done thiings but my parents are not aware of it. Now that I actually want to and make it known my parents think im too young and that every guy just wants me for sex (you know nigerian parents). I have a number of guys who are interested in me and there is a particular one who has his life together who I will like to be with but my parents are the problem. by the way he is 20. Sometimes I have to lie about my whereabouts just to go on dates. I need your opinion ..do you think 18 yrs old is too young to get into a serious relationship
11. August 2015
18 isn’t too young, it’s a great age to practice dating. Sit down and talk to your parents about it, be honest and explain what you see in the guy you’re dating. You’re old enough to make you own decisions in all honesty, just don’y expect them to be open to the idea of him coming back to yours after dates etc.
Hey oloni . So i met somebody and he decided to make me his girlfriend after 1 month of dating and I agreed . I love his personality and the way we click , personally I would say that I haven’t felt the same about anyone else however one issue is that he is a Christian and I’m a Muslim and although we try to brush the issue to one side , I feel like it’s a deal breaker for him but he does want me to know . What do think I should do ?
11. August 2015
If you feel like it’s a deal breaker, then talk about it with him. Some relationships do not work when the individuals have different beliefs, some do.
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