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I recently got back in touch with my ex after 2 months of being together to ask him whether he wanted the stuff back he gave me because obviously I don’t want them and I don’t want to look as though I’m a golddigga or something. He got me an iPhone, an mk bag and an Armani purse. As nice as they are and I appreciated him getting them for me I just don’t think I can keep them cos I’ll be forever reminded of him. He told me I should keep them and not waste such valuable items by throwing them away or he suggested that I give them to my friends but let’s be honest I’m not going to do that. I joked and said I would give it to a homeless person and he was like fine and I told him to delete my number as I won’t be using this phone anymore. He’s like if your not using this phone then give it to me cos his phone was broken in which I replied ok. Then I waited and I got no reply? So now I’m confused does he want it or not? He read the message and has been online but didn’t bother replying back to me so what should I do?! Is he enjoying me chasing after him because not once in these 2 months did he bother messaging me and I’m not expecting him too. My friend told me to leave it as it’s obvious that he doesn’t want the phone that much
8. August 2015
If you’re not using the phone plus the other items that was given as gifts all you have to do is place it in a box and place it in a storage. You didnt need to tell him your plans with it. It just seems like you were being petty & wanted a reaction. If he hasn’t messaged you back about the phone it’s because he doesn’t want it.
The other week I noticed someone who is my ex’s friend had followed me on Twitter. I wasn’t sure whether it was her or not the picture looked exactly like her and she had the same name as her Instagram. He has posted a picture with her before this is how I know. I randomly decided to go on my followers list and it seems she had been following me for quite a bit. Did he tell her to stalk me or was it him? It all seemed a bit dodgy to me. I went onto her profile and she seemed to have followed a lot of spam accounts and then the only real person she followed was me and this raised my suspicion even more. She only made the account in July and tweeted a lot to make it look like she used the account. I then followed her back just to keep an eye and later on when I came back to the account it had been suspended? It was all a bit weird to me.
8. August 2015
I don’t get what you’re asking. If you have a problem with it, block her.
Hi Oloni, I have been bestfriends with my friend for 5 years and recently things have been a bit different, she’s been acting weird towards me and also like she’s doesn’t care anymore. She neva hollas me and asks to chill anymore it’s as if she can’t be asked. Literally we used to be so close and I’ve reached out to her on several occasions talking about how i feel but it’s like it doesn’t get resolved. What should I do? Is it just one of those things where you drift from someone or should I keep trying?
8. August 2015
Friendships can’t be forced. So if there is one person putting more effort in, you have to accept that things aren’t as they once were. Give it time and see how things pan out if you’ve spoken already.
Are you in a relationship, if yes how long?
8. August 2015
I am & a few years.
hi oloni, i hope you had a good birthday.i need your help. my boyfriend says he loves me all the time, but i am not convinced. i just don’t get that feeeling of secriuity with him. at times i feel our relationship is forced, and he’s just with me because he does not want to be alone. He’s a very shy boy and seems insecure so sometimes i felt like he jumped at a chnace to have a girlfriend when i started talking to him. i found out he got with me soon after he broke up with his EX, so sometimes feel i am a rebound. also, when we go out i notice him looking at other girls, so i feel that he’s just with me until he finds someone better. i’ve tried to talk to him when i’m feeling at a lost with our relationship, but he just says he doesn’t want to lose me and starts getting emotional. he even threatened suicide. however , it comes across fake, as it’s over dramatic and i feel it is just his way of making me feel sorry for him so he is not alone. what should i do ?
8. August 2015
This clearly sounds like things aren’t working out. If you’re second guessing yourself perhaps you should leave the relationship. If he’s considering suicide it may be best you get him some help as that’s very unhealthy.
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