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Hello Oloni, so I’ve been sleeping with my university tutor for two years. I know it’s not the greatest way to find love, but he’s really supported me since I started. My dilemma is that he’s getting married to his fiance next year but I can tell it’s not what he wants. He’s told me if he had met me earlier hed have started a life with me after I graduated. Should I talk him out of it?
20. August 2015
No, you don’t talk him out of it. You need to find a new tutor as he’s taking advantage of his position. This guy is not serious about you and certainly not serious about his wife, but that has nothing to do with you. You’re doing the wrong thing by even suggesting you should talk him about of making a commitment to someone else. The only thing that should be your concern is how you’re going to end it before you fall in too deep and invest yourself in something emotionally.
Hey Oloni, I just have a very basic question. Should the guy always iniate the first date and should he also be expected to pay?
20. August 2015
No, women can initiate the first date, but as the guy it’s always a cherry on top if he offers to pay.
Hi oloni . My boyfriend of two years recently broke up with me. I really miss him but the way he started treating me towards the end of the relationship showed that he genuinely didn’t care for me. Should I try to contact him or try to move on? Because he hasn’t tried to contact me but I do miss him. Should I hold out for him or should I try to start moving on and maybe seeing other people when I’m ready?
20. August 2015
You need to realise you can do better and be with someone who cares about you. Be much more stronger and keep yourself busy in order for you to not think about it.
From a ladies point of view, if you’re talking/seeing someone do you think it’s ok to be seeing and sleeping with other people/ex’s?
20. August 2015
If the ex isn’t one who is a friend. You can’t be loyal to someone you’ve had a few dates and cocktails with if you’re not exclusive.
Hey Oloni. Do you believe in second chance? I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase “don’t run back to the very thing that hurt you”. I’ve been split up from my ex for a while, and I’m a completely new person. But recently me and my ex have been talking again and the love between us never really went away. I know women should never try and change men, but in order for us to possibly see eachother again and see how it goes, should I at least tell him what I want to be different and see what he says, or should I find someone better and get over it?
20. August 2015
It really depends on the circumstances of why you broke up. Can it be resolved? Will it change? There’s nothing wrong with discussing what you want. Do it and see how it goes.
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