Ask me sex and relationship questions here anonymously. Please make questions as *brief* as possible to make sure you get a response. Please be aware that some dilemmas may be posted on social media platforms and cannot be removed on there or Ask Oloni once submitted. Not all questions sent can be answered due to the high amount received daily. For a QUICK response book aprivate callhere
Hey oloni! I have kids with a guy who also has other children. There are 3 of us who have kids for him but we don’t really get along. We don’t hate each other but no one talks to each other neither wants to talk. Is it weird if I have the urge to contact them and try and have some sort of relationship as our kids add siblings? Or do I leave that to their dad to sort out? I come from a split family and my mother was cool with my half sister’s mother. Not friends but they could talk on the phone and not have issues.
9. August 2015
I think its healthy if you try to create a civilised relationship with the other ladies, do it, but discuss with the father of your child first.
Hi Oloni, I met this guy on tumblr about two years ago he’s 26 and I’m 18. He lives in Germany so I’ve never met him we act like we’re in a real relationship but we’ve only skyped once because he’s insecure of his appearance since the car accident he had a year ago. Since then he doesn’t send me pictures of him. We send each other gifts too. Recently I’ve been feeling like I want to give up on this relationship because it seems to be at a stand still. My friends do not understand because I find it embarrassing to have an online felt with a stranger what do I do?
8. August 2015
It sounds like the relationship you have right now is an online fantasy. You both enjoy knowing that you care about each other . The fact that you’ve built a bond over two years does so. But at some point you’re going to have to ask yourself, if you see things going anywhere. If you can’t do basic things after two years, how will a real relationship work? There more to a real relationship than sending gifts to each other and messaging, you have to build other sorts of connections and not one that can be made online solely.
Hi, would love to get your views on a situation… I have been with my partner for over a year now & live together. He has been sent to prison for 3 months, we both knew this was coming & prepared for it. I as a loyal woman have every intention of standing by him while his away, however I recently found out he had cheated on me just before he was locked up!! I’m hurt & annoyed but at the same time I would hate to turn my back on him at this particular time. What are your thoughts please! Thanks x
8. August 2015
He is in prison and has cheated on you. Please move on with your life, there is more to it.
Hi Oloni, I have been seeing this guy for almost 9 months now, and I really like him (he also claims to like me too which is very evident), however he has made it clear to me that he doesn’t want a relationship. I am the only girl he is seeing and i’m with him almost every other day; yet still no progression…. I do not entertain other guys and a part of me feels like i am wasting my time …. What should I do?
8. August 2015
You are wasting your time. If he likes you as much as he says he does he’d have no problem making sure you were his. 9 months is far too long. Call it quits.
My boyfriend knows the password to all of my devices but gets defensive when I ask for his. He’s rarely on his phone around me. He says that’s he doesn’t want me to have his password because I’ll look for things and try to pick fights with him over nothing which I have done in the past, I’ll admit. He’s cheated on me once before a long time ago. We’re in a really good space and happy together but I don’t know if I should be worried? Thanks for your help.
8. August 2015
You don’t need the password to his property, however if he has nothing to hide their should’t be anything to pick a fight about unless he’s having inappropriate conversations with women. I sounds like you don’t trust him and you’re quite suspicious of his behaviour so discuss it instead of acting like it doesn’t exist.
Subscribe To Our Newsletter
Sign up to our mailing list to read our sex and relationship features first.
You have Successfully Subscribed!