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Hi Oloni, my gf has a hormone condition which causes excessive hair growth so has to shave and wax a lot. Lately she’s been letting the hair grow cos her dermatologist advised her so. I love her either way. But we went to my sisters wedding last week and family and friends have started to notice (She has a lot of facial hair), it’s slightly embarrassing. Everyone is saying that if she loves me she’ll cut it off. They don’t know the upkeep it takes to keep cutting it, she doesn’t even look in the mirror anymore, she didn’t even wanna go to my sisters wedding but I made her. She’s always crying. She hates herself. No matter how she removes the hair within a week it grows back thicker. She’s saving for laser but at the rate we’re goin it will be 2018 before she has enough money. I have a lot of events to attend this summer, the kind where u take ur partner. But my friends and family will be there and I know they’ll comment. If I bring it up to her she cries. I’m torn. What do I do??
4. August 2015
This must be very difficult for her, so remember it’s not you..but your girlfriend who is going through this. I’m sure you have an idea of how torn she must feel about this condition. The only thing you can do is be supportive. There is no other solution unless this reason is enough for you to leave her. People have conditions all the time, but it’s things like this that show how strong a relationship is. Your family are wrong, she shouldn’t have to shave it if she loves you as its not that simple. You need to think about this properly and decide if you are still able to commit to her through all of this.
Hello, I recently thought of a business idea which I have been keeping to my self for a few months as I didn’t want to jinx it or whatever, I recently shared the idea with a friend of mine just to see if anyone thought it was a good idea, immediately he started saying how excited he was and how he is ready to put in and how he’ll help start up and market the business etc.. I’m glad he’s so supportive and willing to help but I didn’t tell him with the intending to get him involved I just wanted to see if the idea was good or not. Now he keeps asking me when i’m ready to start and everything and I don’t know what to say as the whole reason I had this idea was because I wanted to have something on my own that was just for me, and if the business is successful i’m going to have to credit and involve him which really was not my intention. Should I just accept the help or how do I break it to him that I kinda wanted to do this on my own.
4. August 2015
This is your business idea. There is no such thing as pussy-footing when it comes to business. You have to be direct and communicate your feelings. I understand this is a friend who has the greatest intentions to simply help. But you are allowed to voice how you feel about the situation without there being any hard feelings. In future when telling people ideas, word it carefully to them so they do not get the wrong end of the stick.
Hey oloni I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 years now we have been together since year 11(secondary school times), recently he proposed to me and I said no because I don’t think we are financially stable. But the other day we had a massive argue meant about why I didn’t say no and he slapped me is this an alert that he might lay his hands on me in the future?
4. August 2015
It seems like you made the right decision. You should never place your hand on someone else, especially when you’re in a relationship. This is one hell of a red flag and even break up worthy.
me and my ex recently broke up and he suggested if i want we can continue having sex. I really don’t get that.
4. August 2015
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