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Hi Oloni, I’ve bought a ticket for your webinar and was wondering if you’ll be discussing things to talk about on a date. I’ve been on two dates with a guy and we’ll be going on a third and we’ve spoken about past relationships, favourite things etc and I’m not much of a conversationalist so I’m lost on what we can speak about when there are those awkward silences, if it won’t be in your webinar what are some suggestions you have please x
25. July 2015
THANK YOU for getting a ticket! I appreciate you & since you’ve asked I will answer & give you tips tomorrow night. I hope that’s fine?
Ive been talking to this guy for a few months who I met through a friend. It’s nothing serious, we have just been chatting. We are both physically attracted to each other and eventually the conversation led towards sex. Being the upfront person that I am, I asked him to clarify whether this was just sex or he could see us actually hanging out (either way I wasn’t fussed). He said for now that it was just sex but he thought I was cool and eventually it may lead to something, to which I agreed. Now a few days after this conversation he seems to resent the fact that I was so okay with the situation and thinks im using him for sex. Im really confused as to why he is reacting like this when this is what he put on the table in the first place. I’m not sure whether he is starting to like me a little more and just sex isnt enough or whether he just has an unstable personality lol.
24. July 2015
Talk to him about it.
Hey Oloni. My boyfriend and I ha been together for 3 years. He doesn’t take me out, he doesn’t take me home neither does he even show me off. Whenever there are other are around he acts like we strangers but when we alone he says he loves me a lot. Last of all whenever I ask him for something he doesn’t give, no money, no gifts,no dates nothing. When I do talk to him about it he doesn’t find anything wrong with it. I’m really worried and I love him but Im not sure what to do either.
24. July 2015
This isn’t love, this is you wasting your time with someone who’s clearly ashamed of you. Drop him please.
Hey oloni. Okay my case is somehow. My ex and I broke up sometime ago and I still have deep feelings for him. Like I still love him. It’s almost two years now, and we broke up because of distance, but I still really love him. I haven’t even been able to move on to someone else cuz I still love him. I talk to him sometimes but it seems like he doesn’t care about me anymore. How do I get over him and move on?
24. July 2015
Stop all forms of contact. Talking to him is not helping you move on.
Hey oloni. I haven’t been with my boyfriend very long but we’ve been friends for the best part of 4 years so it feels like forever. Although we tell each other everything, I feel like sex is key in a relationship (my opinion) and I’m not as satisfied as I have been with previous partners. He hates the idea of going down which is what I’m used to and enjoy. I do love him and want to spend my years with him, however I do not know whether I can get over his rejection to perform certain things in the bedroom. Do I discuss this with him, or let my love for him over-ride my sexual needs? Please help oloni!
24. July 2015
Talk to him about it, and voice how you feel on the matter. Sex can be a deal breaker for some couples, but not all. There’s also ways around oral pleasure that can make it more comfortable to him if he’s open minded to it, such as using edible lube.
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