I normally don’t give in to “come chill with me” boys but after a bad break up (we’ve been over for months now) and haven spoken to this guy for some time. I thought why not. A few hours into us chilling I realised I may have made a mistake as we walked upstairs to go watch Netflix. About 20 minutes into the film, we were kissing and ended up hooking up. I’m now confused as to whether I should ask him what’s next and if it was just a smash or whether I could leave it; continue to see him and talk as I’m not even looking for a relationship right now. (Moral to this story: Netflix and chill never is just Netflix and chill)
8. August 2015
Couch dates are not the greatest, but you should talk to him and ask to meet up outside both your houses. If he makes an effort then you know it;s more than what happened that one evening.
Hi Oloni, please help, my friend is in a bad relationship. Her boyfriend ignores her for weeks, baitly cheats on her, has pictures and snaps with other girls constantly and she keeps going back to him. I’ve tried to be the supportive, non-bitter friend by listening, advising her but not being forceful with my idea that she should end things but it’s got ridiculous. He will be holding girls in his snap then if she says something he dumps her for moaning too much, I cheer her up, wipe her tears, try and give her strength to be without him and 2 days later she’s back with him. What do I do? Do I continue to be a supportive friend or do I shake her and tell her he’s cheating on her and she needs to get some divinity and stay away. The boy treats her like shit and I’m so fed up with it. Please help
8. August 2015
You have to let her sort out her own relationship. However if you do not want to be involved when things go pear shaped you have to explain this also. So many women are in codependent relationships and use their friends to fall back on repeatedly. It’s unfair and not your responsibility. Let her know that you will continue being there, but not like this. You can’t and wont be the person who she can discuss her relationship woes with any longer.
Hi Oloni, my boyfriend and i have been together for a year, and I recently found out he’s with someone else as well. I spoke to him and he promised to do something about but he later said he doesn’t know how to because she has introduced him to her family and some whole sob story. I do like him, even love him. What should I do?
8. August 2015
Leave him. If he does break up with you his has been disloyal. Know your worth.
Is Dating or dealing with a guy age 19 wrong as I’m 21Specially when it could lead to something
8. August 2015
I’m currently with a partner for 5 months and she’s great, however I keep thinking of a past partner who came back into contact with me and I think I may still have feelings for that girl … What should I do?
8. August 2015
Figure out why you’re thinking about the past. Did you truly move on before you entered something new?
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