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Hey, I’ve been with my bf going on to two years now, when we first got together I tried the injection contraception but I had bad side effects then I tried the pill & it made me put on weight now I’m on the implant still getting bad side effects bleeding & cramps, I’ve told him I want to come off it & use the iud but he’s saying no I should give the implant time to settle but I can’t when I’m in pain I don’t want to be selfish & take it out behind his back what should I do please I’m tired of it
11. August 2015
Let him know you will be removing it, he doesn’t have a say on your choice of contraception. If it’s making you feel sick/weak/uncomfortable then do what’s best for your body immediately and see a nurse at a sexual health clinic who can help you. Try sticking to condoms till you find a contraception that responds well to your body, there are so many out there.
So me and my bf broke up a few months ago and we said we’d stay friends, we talk on the phone every week or 2 since the break up and recently he’s said he wants come and stay at mine for a couple days(I live kinda far). In one sense I want him to so we can stay friends but I know I don’t wanna get back with him and feel he plans on tempting me back when he comes. Is this a bad idea??
11. August 2015
Yes it is a bad idea.
Hi Oloni, I emailed you on the 7th July about a guy I had started talking to being possessive not only that but controlling and rude. Anyways I’ve found the exit thank God. My problem is that we live 5-10 minutes away from each other and bare in mind he never knew where I lived. On Tuesday he rang me 25 times in the space of an hour and I didn’t answer, thank God I was on the phone to someone even though I could see his incoming call – sometimes twice in one minute. Anyways after that he text me saying he saw me, how he followed me and even sent a video of me walking down my road, that scared the shit out of me – he also demanded to know who I was talking to – we have never dated. I’ve told him not to contact me but he still does and I’m really not into changing my number (for now I’ve put it on do not disturb so that only certain people I choose can get through). Sorry that this is all long but it really bugs me that he videoed me/followed me this isn’t normal. I really don’t see a way out of this.
11. August 2015
There is a way out of this dear, you need to report this unhealthy behaviour to the police asap with evidence of this harassment
Been with my boyfriend 1yr & have been financially supporting him most. He arranges for me to spend the night, theb goes out with his mates leaving me at his house. He says he won’t be gone long, then comes back at 4/5am. I’ve spent the whole night alone .
11. August 2015
He’s taking you for granted and you know so too. This behaviour isn’t normal and you need to bring it to his attention asap. What is he doing at 4/5am if he’s not going to be ‘too long’? You also need to stop financially supporting him that isn’t your role as a girlfriend.
Hi Oloni, I have been with mypartner for almost two years now. In February he cheated on mewith someone else, I decided to forgive himas I believed it was judt a one off and maybe he needed to experiment (he’s 18). But recently he has followed the girl he slept with on Instagram, and has been liking her photos, what shall I do?
11. August 2015
Do not make excuses for him, he cheated and was disloyal. Have a conversation with him. It’s very inappropriate.
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