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Not sure if this sent as my phone died but how do you know when you’ve fallen out of love
11. September 2015
When you start questioning whether you’ve fallen out of love with a person your normally have. You don’t see them in the same light, they don’t become your world, the deep feelings you once had suddenly disappear.
Hey Oloni, I’m a frequent Twitter commenter and I really like what you do. I’ve been dating my bf for about 6 months now but he’s moving to Canada and I’m in England. He believes we can pull off long distance but I know how horrible it can be, I’m really scared. I don’t want to loose him and everytime I bring it up he assures me we’ll be fine but it still kills me we’ll be far apart from each other. Am I just overreacting or should I do something before we start having issues
11. September 2015
You need to try and have a much more positive attitude on the matter, stop thinking that you’ll lose him and think of ways you can keep in contact. Work out different methods of how you can communicate regularly. Figure and plan when you can visit each other. Long distance can work if YOU both want it to. Plenty of couples have survived it, so make sure your relationship is part of that.
Oloni, my bf of 5 months started talking to his ex again and he just told me she asked him if he loves me. He really loved her and the only reason they aren’t together is b/c she called it off. Should I be worried she’s back in his life? P.S he liked her for over 6 months before they dated for 6 months and he didn’t tell me he was talking to her until I shared something serious with him as a confession in which he felt he owed me a confession instead 🙁
11. September 2015
It’s great that he was honest with you, but the next step you need to take is to ask if he still has feelings for his ex. He shouldn’t be in contact with her and he knows it hence why he’s kept it a secret. Talk to him and find out where his head is at.
Hey Oloni, how are you?. I’d just like to firstly say that you do not get enough credit for what you do so thank you on behalf of everyone you help. Sooo I’ve been talking to this guy it was going really well. He says he really wants to get to know me and suggested that we do something. So I came up with a date plan of something to do. He totally read what I said and ignored me. It’s been like 5 day!!. You can’t just do that, what should I do. Xx
11. September 2015
Follow up from your message and ask why he didn’t respond. If his reason is forgiveable it’s up to you to decide whether or not you’d like to give it another shot. It was wrong of him to totally ignore the message if he said he’d like to get to know you more.
Hey Oloni, I really admire what you do, thanks. I was sexually abused by my biological father when I was a kid. He’s obvs not in the picture anymore. But I realised that all my boyfriends have looked exactly like him and I called them ‘daddy’ and I have some kind of daughter-like dependency with my current )Am I messed up?
11. September 2015
Hey love, I’m sorry to hear what happened, but I do believe you need to seek professional help and see a therapist.
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