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My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me because we have been having arguments , we usually have arguments but it’s never been this bad . Anyway , he said he is unhappy . I just assumed the arguments would stop and this was just a phase in our relationship we would get out of . He is the love of my life and has taught me many things . He also thought me how to be a better person . Please how do I show him that we can get past it and we should just try .
12. October 2015
Maybe you need to listen to him. If he’s unhappy you have to leave him alone, especially right now as you’ve just broken up. You can’t force him to be with you and you can’t force the relationship to work if you kept arguing. The relationship itself becomes unhealthy. Spend some time a apart for a few weeks and if you still feel strongly ask him to meet up with you for closure and hear how he feels.
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12. October 2015
I am 23 & I have been with my 29yr old boyfriend for 4 months (after only knowing him 6weeks) and I have just found out the girl he was seeing on and off for 2 and a half years is 7months pregnant with his child. The only reason I found out is because the girl went and told his mum after he said he had no intentions of playing the father role. Our relationship is amazing and I really like him but He kept this secret from me and now I am worried about our future or if I can trust him. Can this please be QOTD I need a lot of advice.
12. October 2015
This doesn’t need to be a qotd. The truth is this isn’t a guy that you should really be investing any more time into. If he can turn his back on his own child, his own flesh and blood. How will he treat you? If he can keep this a secret, what else is he hiding? I know you like this guy but it is still early days so be wise.
I’ve just exited a toxic 2 and a half year relationship and have started dating again. Although it’s been a long time I feel like I have to teach myself little things like how to hold an exciting conversation with a man. Recently 2 men have shown an interest in me. One is very hands on and shows signs of wanting to have sex which he knows is not going to happen because I’ve said so. He wants to get to know me but I’m not really there yet. And the other I adore but he lives in another city. I guess my question is, is it too early for me to be dating? Should I focus on repairing myself from the toxic relationship I was in previously?
12. October 2015
Yes it is too soon. You need to breathe and heal from the last relationship. Give yourself at least 3 months and learn from your past experience.
My boyfriend is great. Treats me well, does his best for me. But I’m repulsed when we have sex & I can’t stay turned on for long enough. Nothing to do with his appearance because I’m definitely attracted to him. But I get bored & want him off me. He cares more about pleasing himself more than me. I’ve shown him different positions, & even tried being drunk with him. But it doesn’t work. I just don’t want to be intimate with him anymore. What do I do ?
12. October 2015
You’re going to have to talk to him and let him know how you’re feeling sexually. You can’t continue to participate in something that you want stopped immediately.
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