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Im 23 and never been on a date. I want to start so I am trying online dating but since Ive never been on a date I dont know how to even trust someone I met online to meet. advice?
17. October 2015
There are lots of online dating apps and sites to give a try, but the best way it’ll work is if you get to know the person for lets say a few weeks by texting, talking on he phone etc. If you do agree to go on a date, be safe and meet in a public space. Online dating is the very ‘in’ thing right now, so you have nothing to worry about if you do it the right way.
Hi Oloni – so I’m 22 y/o never kissed or had a boyfriend before. I don’t want to be vain lol but I’m not physically unattractive as I’ve had attention from guys before (I know many will assume maybe I’m fat or something lol) anyway there’s a guys I like at work and I want to let him know to see where it goes. Any tips on how to let a guy know you like him when you’ve got limited experience. Guys what you find this unattractive if a girl was direct with you?
17. October 2015
There’s nothing wrong with showing an interest in someone. Ask him out for drinks but make sure there’s at least a foundation of a friendship.
I am 18 and currently with a 29 year old. He has a go at me for doing things he does – ie going out and talking to people. I know he has been cheated on in the past and has trust issues, and I have done things wrong but we have worked our way through. Suddenly he doesn’t wanna see me as much, and he’s getting in extreme moods with me if I do things without asking him first. I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t know how much longer I can do this. Help please?
17. October 2015
Is he your dad or your boyfriend? Quite frankly, you don’t need his permission for nowt. Have a conversation with him and remind him of this. If things aren’t working out re-think this relationship.
hi oloni me and my ex broke up and we did not speak for almost for almost a year but then we started speaking again and since then we’ve done sexual things twice the first time it was awkward and we didnt speak for a little while but i didnt care because i didnt have feelings for him. however the second time it wasnt awkward at all and we kinda clicked and now i’ve caught some feelings. we still spoke after that but i havent spoken to him in like four days now. i really want us to start something again but im not sure if hes interested. what do i do?
12. October 2015
You’ve opened up a can of worms, but what’s left for you to do is speak up and let him know how you feel.
hi oloni, I’ve basically been speaking to this guy since December last year and around March we stopped talking because conversations were getting dead and the banter and the liveliness of the convo was no longer there anymore. He now has a girlfriend and he started dating her around March when we were talking on and off. I need advice and help on what I should do and whether or not I should forget about him
12. October 2015
You need to move on with your life, he is not the only man to have walked this earth and he has a girlfriend. Girl? Come on!
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