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Hi Oloni, there’s this guy at my uni who I knew through mutual friends before but we have gotten closer now. It’s only been a few months and we are already having sex regularly. I have my suspicions that the calls and texts and dates from early on were only so that he could get me in bed since all of that has stopped now. If I were to cut off all communication with him it would be pretty awkward since our campus is quite small so I know I’d bump into him all the time. Plus it would be nice to go back to being just friends. How do I go about this without having a major serious convo about it since we were never official or anything serious?
12. December 2015
Just have a conversation with him over phone and let him know that you’d prefer if you could go back to being friends. There’s nothing major to talk about if feelings aren’t involved and you’re just having casual sex.
Hi Oloni, i’ve been seeing this guy for nearly 4 months, i finally asked him when he was going to make things offical. He replied with, i’m not ready now…but i might be ready in the future. Would it be foolish to wait?
12. December 2015
Yeah, 4 months is enough time to decide whether or not you’d like to be exclusive with someone. Have another chat and ask what he’s not ready for. The last thing you want is to invest too much of yourself into someone, who’ll never be ‘ready’.
I have a high body count and when I eventually open up to guys they are put off. It all went downhill when I was cheated on by an ex of a year by two females one of who he is with now and has three kids .Im 19 my body count is 27.I really regret and wish I could erase it but every time I say people judge. I’ve lied in the past that didn’t go down well .but If I say people are not interested I just want a happy long lasting relationship what should I do? More importantly what are boys views?
12. December 2015
People will always judge you no matter what. You could get judged for being a virgin or sleeping with three guys, their opinions aren’t your concern. There are several women who have what they deem to be a high number and still end up in a happy and faithful relationship. Someone who can’t accept that your past doesn’t define who you are, is not someone you want to be with. My concern is whether or not you have healed completely from the experiences you went through prior with your ex’s. As for for views from men, not all of them are the same.. some will care, other won’t.
Hey Oloni are you ever going to do another so mingling soiree?
12. December 2015
Next year!
Hi Oloni, I was wondering if you have any tips for keeping in contact over the christmas break. We mainly talk when we hang out and a bit of texting in between. I’ll be gone for 3 weeks and dont really want it to fizzle out any tips?
12. December 2015
Try fitting phone calls between the time your spent away. Facetime or skype too. The truth is if it’s meant to be things won’t die out.
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