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29. December 2015
Hi Oloni, I have been with my boyfriend and a while now and about 3 months ago we found out that I was pregnant. Although shocked at the time due it being unplanned we were both excited. I wasn’t prepared for how much my body was going to change and since I’ve started to show I’ve started to feel insecure and less attractive to him, I’m usually very fit and active but the first trimester was really hard on me and I struggled to keep up my regular gym routine. Now I’m 4 months pregnant my energy levels are back to normal, but now sex is non existent, it’s been like this since my baby bump started to appear. Every time we get physical he stops or makes a comment about the baby or just kisses or cuddles me. Not only has this added to me feeling secure about how attractive I am now but it’s also got me questioning whether he feels the same anymore. I don’t know what to do as he’s insisted he loves me and he is still affectionate, but sleeping in the same bed with no sex for this long is odd to us. Please help me!
28. December 2015
I once worked at Mother and Baby Magazine so I read about situations like this a lot. What you’re going through is absolutely normal for soon to be mothers. Try to spark things back in the bedroom by buying new lingerie, it helps set a the mood for sex. There are plenty of maternity brands out there that create sexy lingerie so have a google and treat yourself. Another thing I’d advise is to communicate outside of the bedroom and let him know exactly how you feel. Talk about how you’re doing emotionally and physically even if he is a very loving partner, it’s important for him to know how his girlfriend and mother of his child is feeling. You should also ask how he is..It’s not unheard of for men to get worried about hurting the baby when having sex, they too also have a lower libido around this period, but remember being intimate isn’t just about sweaty sex you can try different things, such as oral pleasure, masturbating, massages and so much more. That’s the beauty of sex, there are various activities you can try out. I hope this helps.
Hi Oloni. My boyfriend really likes to eat my ass and other things but I draw the line at anal sex. Tbh I don’t even like doing anything related to that area. It doesn’t turn me on at all, I just pretend because he seems to love it a lot. Should I tell him I don’t like it at all or let him have his fun?
28. December 2015
You need to speak up about this before you have sex again. If you’re not comfortable doing something sexually then it needs to become the topic of conversation asap.
Hi oloni, i broke up with my ex of 5 years a few months ago and i met someone new a few weeks later. This person had approached me, i was hesitant to give him a chance but I thought it would help me move on from my ex. As time has gone by i still haven’t gotten over my ex, im still very much in love with him but at the same time i have grown feelings for this other guy. Ive recently told the new guy the truth about my feelings and he didnt take it so well. He got angry and has stopped talking to me but now i feel really sad and i dont know if ive made the right decision. What shall I do?
28. December 2015
You’re not supposed to date a guy with the intentions that’ll hep you move on from a breakup unless were looking for a rebound. I wouldn’t say you were wrong, you were honest. Sometimes honesty doesn’t always receive the best reactions. Perhaps you still might need some more time to enjoy being single, you were in a relationship for 5 years, cool off a bit more till you know you’re definitely ready to jump back into the dating game.
Hi oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years , I love him so much but we are very much one of those on and off couples when we get back together we are Stronger than ever. But two years ago I found an arcrylic nail in his car, I swear it is not mine because I only wear plain colour arcrylics…. At the time I didn’t think much of it…. A couple of days later I saw another arcrylic in his car so I did some research and I couldn’t find anything except a FaceTime call named ‘lee’ and I knew he had no friends called lee so I face timed ‘lee’ and I found out it was a woman. So clearly this had been going on for quite a while. I’m so upset but I don’t know how to approach the situation… Oloni please help!
28. December 2015
Who ever Lee is needs to find a new nail technician, unless they were press ons. Moving on, you need to confront this issue with your boyfriend. If you’ve been together for 7 years and you don’t know who this person is, it’s obvious he’s doing something he isn’t supposed to be. Talk to your man and figure out what you want to do. You’ve been on an off for years, so will this make you leave?
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