Long-distance relationships may not be deemed as the most desirable or promising relationship to be in, yes it can definitely involve many pit stops and re-planned routes but it’s definitely be worth it. Sometimes it may not feel that way if you have been riding for a while, you may be feeling uncomfortable and lonely especially with Valentine’s Day just a month away so here are a few reasons to love your long-distance relationship at this time of the year… read more HERE 

You simply cut them off to protect your peace. This is clearly someone that doesn’t respect your boundaries and the only thing you have control over is what you do. Cutting someone off doesn’t have to be messy but just communicate less and focus on yourself and your other close friends more. If you feel like you’ve explained yourself enough, you don’t even need to give them a warning. Also the more you tolerate the more the person will assume you can’t be that offended.

Ebi. A.

Howdy,

Okay a month isn’t that long but life happens haha. Okay, I always think it’s important to mirror the person you’re dealing with. What I mean by that is there AIN’T NOOOO WAIIIII you should be sitting here confused when he’s VERY upfront when it comes to asking you how you feel. So the solution here is to open your mouth just like he’s opening his mouth and if he acts like you’ve crossed any boundaries that’s his problem not yours. Now ask him exactly what he asks you and ask him what his intentions are, maybe not specifically with you but does he want a relationship anytime soon? Then ask him what his specific intentions are with you. Straight forward question. Don’t shuffle stick to it. The only thing is as it’s only been a month most guys will say something along these lines (I definitely like you and I want to SEE WHERE THINGS GO) but you see here’s the thing, as most guys use that line, so do most SHIT MEN. So the only thing you can do is either choose to ride it out and set an expiration date in your head or FALL BACK. Now you can fall back in different ways, you could cut him off completely but I don’t think that’s necessary. What I think you need to do is identify the things that get you sprung quickly and AVOID AVOID AVOID. if that means being intimate with him STOP THAT until there’s clear commitment. If talking to him as often as you do gets you sprung STOP THAT BABES and do that for every single thing you know makes you swoon for a guy. If it means exploring other options (non-sexually since you don’t want to be sprung on more than one guy) date other people but before you do that make him aware of your reasons. So “I’m looking to talk to other people (make it clear you’re just speaking to them) since I don’t want to invest in one situation that potentially isn’t going anywhere” and go forth and prosper. Good luck

Ebi A

Yupppppp I think you should definitely ask. If you’re a girl, guys get funny with the “what are we” question apparently so 1. don’t give them any prior warning so they can’t run for the hills (you have to trap them you see) and 2. approach it by first stating, “this is where I’m at right now” etc….”just wondering whether you’re on the same page or not”. so in short if you want to take things further make that super clear and ask them what they think. if you’re a guy well thats very awks considering all i’ve said prior to this, well you can use the same approach but I find girls aren’t as picky when it comes to the what are we question so you could just use that. Good luck, if he or she runs. Just go to bed. It works.

Ebi A.

Girlllllll contrary to what it may look like on social media listen this is not unusual. Life really just does happen and people often get into many meaningless relationships. It could be many things, it could be the type of guys you’re going for in the sense that you might need to filter out the kind of guys you entertain. So you make it explicitly clear what you want from the beginning and make clear how much time you’re willing to put into each situation. Sometimes it feels that way because we spend way too much time on each individual without making it clear what we want and by the time we’ve nipped it in the bud half a year has passed haha. This is an assumption but you may be at uni, uni is FULL of unserious guys haha, some are serious don’t get me wrong but its also about the boy to girl ratio and for the most part uni isn’t the time a lot of guys want to settle, post-uni bae life is real babes. Also if you’ve ever been rejected and the guy has become a friend, ask him what he didn’t like about you (don’t internalise/take personally everything he says because we all know guys are weird, but some things can help you out a lot when it comes to the dating scene). Write down what you want in a guy and highlight the parts that you think you’re just being unnecessarily picky about, show a friend if you want a second opinion and maybe go about your way being more flexible on these things. In no way am I saying compromise on the important things btw but some things really are not that deep. Date with a purpose, understand what your goal is and if you have picked up patterns, maybe you need to avoid those type of guys from the very beginning. Approach is everything. And lastly RELAX, you’re young man, very young….I’m 23 and single unless you’re saying there’s something wrong with me too haha i’m just joking. Good luck girl.

Ebi A