Hey,

To me it’s quite simple, it’s all about what you value more. Why would you prioritise his friendship over you getting over him? And what exactly are you trying to save? You keep mentioning the fact that he has no feelings, but the important thing here is that you have feelings…so you owe it to yourself to do whatever you can to undo those feelings before you land yourself into a situationship and the only way you can do that is distance and that ranges from blocking him on everything to maybe just not talking to him as much. If you clearly like him and he clearly likes you (but not enough to commit) who is to say he won’t continue with things as per usual? You are only as safe as his ability to stick to what he has said…if you don’t put up your own boundaries and what’s worse is if he chooses not to, he will take the fact that he has already explicitly and indirectly told you he is not ready for commitment…so if you do end up getting hurt, to a large extent that will be on you and he will treat you as if it were. What you have now you can get elsewhere, that’s the harsh truth. You are replaceable and so is he. Furthermore given your feelings if he truly cares he will understand your need for distance at least for now. If he doesn’t then the friendship really isn’t as deep as you think it is or he is clearly prioritising his feelings or his desires at your expense. So if you’re unhappy and not on the same page, there’s nothing “to save” in that sense, if you prioritise your feelings. Also don’t think by staying you can change his mind. Take it for what it is and move on.

Ebi

Hey,

That’s up to you and what you’re willing to accept. Your options are to leave or stay and work on moving forward. But some things to consider, make sure you’re not going back for the wrong reasons. Do not walk back into a toxic situation because you feel you cannot do without the her. You do not owe her a second chance. You also need to ensure that this isn’t coming from a place of insecurity.

Ebi

Hey,

The fact that you think him doing this for you after a less than two month relationship is a depiction of how much he cares is worrying. I’m sorry but to expect such from someone so soon makes you the irrational one. Although, understandably you’re in a tough space and emotionally overwhelmed, do not project that onto him. People don’t usually rush into marriage, guys especially tend to take their sweet time until they’re sure. I’m sorry that you’re in this situation and I honestly wish you the best. I know this wasn’t particularly helpful but I hope this puts your emotions into perspective and his reaction into perspective.

Ebi

Pray about it then.

Ebi

Hey,

Firstly, just to make things clear I’m assuming you were not in a relationship. You both wanted different things, you wanted a relationship, he didn’t. You also didn’t have any arrangement set up that you both wouldn’t sleep with anyone else. So I’m struggling to understand why exactly he or you for that matter feel you did anything wrong? If you both haven’t made it clear that you want to be exclusive. I don’t believe he has a right to see you any differently, it’s very irrational, but the fact is he does. So now what you must not do is  internalise that because quite frankly you did not cheat. You also need not question what you need to do to get him to see you how he used to, if anything that screams insecurity. It’s not about proving your commitment because you have been doing that before to the point that you requested that you be something more but he declined. So unless your intention is to be in a situationship till thy kingdom come I suggest you keep it moving, focus on yourself and your happiness and if he is ready/will ever be ready he can address you accordingly. At the very best you can apologise for the way in which you may have made him feel but the fact that he wasn’t transparent about those feelings or his wishes for you both to be exclusive he needs to take a certain degree of responsibility for how he feels right now. When you don’t set out clear boundaries, someone is bound to cross the line you have made in your head.

Ebi