If you’re always heartbroken you need to run far away from this man. A relationship isn’t supposed to make you feel terrible about yourself. He doesn’t sound like a catch and it makes me wonder why, you’ve chosen to stay? You have trust issues, he says nasty things to you and it’s only been 8 months. Do you not believe you deserve better? Would you not like to be with someone who treats you better? Staying in a codependent relationship can be extremely damaging. I’ll keep it real and honestly advise you to terminate this relationship, I doubt things will get any better.

Oloni

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If you already feel like there’s no point continuing the relationship, the first thing you need to do is TALK to him. Have a serious conversation and let him know how you feel. Explain your exact thoughts on the relationship, you need to communicate with him, because even though deep down you don’t want to continue the relationship, at this present moment you are still committed to him and he deserves to know your current thoughts.

Oloni

First off, you need to stay way from drinking for a very long time. Anyone who acts like that when intoxicated should not be consuming alcohol. If I was him I’d block your number too, what you did was very unforgivable. Set the story straight with those who joined in attacking him, you don’t want him to be painted as a villain especially when it was you who as acting up. If you have any other way of contacting this guy, such as Instagram DM or Facebook, send an email apologising. Once you’ve done all of this try doing some self evaluation  and seeking a therapist, your behaviour that night was very serious.

Oloni

Hey, what you mentioned sounds very confusing but I’d advise you not to focus on it too much. He just might need more time to feel more comfortable especially since what described sounds like he’s extremely shy.

Oloni

Hey,

Just wanted to say you’re amazing, I promise i’m not moist but this made me melt!!! What is happening here could be one of two things, she cannot comprehend how a guy could possibly love her that much, considering how starting a family can be very important to both women and men or she feels as though you don’t fully comprehend the task ahead and you’re only able to say what you’re saying because you don’t fully understand what that will mean in the long run and how it may feel, so her reaction may be her trying to protect herself from future disappointment, she doesn’t want to believe you because if she does and you disappoint her it will hurt even more, it may sound weird but that’s a possibility. Now considering all of this, the only thing you can really do is show her, maybe don’t bring up the issue as often and every time it is brought up reassure her that all will be well. I really do feel as though she may possibly relax when or if you decide to marry her/propose to her, I’m by no means saying rush anything, but I do feel like that will bring her a sense of relief, even though your words and the years you’ve been with her should be enough, sometimes with sensitive issues like this people find it very hard to undo the negative thoughts they’ve entertained for years, honestly, she probably didn’t think she’d get this far with a guy accepting her for who she is and accepting her condition. So all you can really do is stay consistent, do what you say you will do and reassure her anyway you can. That’s all really. Best of luck, sending blessings and strength to the both of you.

-Ebi