Hey,

Just make your feelings known then give him his space. You’re gonna have to firm this one, this is the consequence for the choices you made, to feel as if you’re entitled to his sympathy, time, forgiveness in this moment is selfish. Take this as a lesson, it will make you a better girlfriend in future, if not to him, to someone else.

-Ebi

Hey,

You don’t rush, you ask her who she wants, depending on what she says, if you’re ready to settle then get into a relationship, but understand that it’s not a competition, don’t let pride make you rush into something you’re not ready for.

-Ebi

Hey,

Wow, I genuinely feel like this is an extremely toxic view to have and whatever has led you to feel this way needs to be addressed. These things happen, it is not a reflection of your worth. You are still who you were before that occurrence and you need to stop being so hard on yourself. Looking forward, if this is how you feel in such situations then you may need to protect that part of you…so I’d say don’t be intimate with any guy until you have addressed these issues. (This is an assumption, but if you feel this way for any religious or cultural reasons please understand that you are not meant to feel condemned, you may feel you have done wrong and according to your belief that may be so, but you are human and you cannot get past this  with such a toxic attitude, so moving forward if it is a religious thing, try your best to adhere to whatever it is you believe in but when you fall short don’t be overwhelmed with shame or condemnation, just look forward and try and do better, you’re human, you’re not meant to be perfect). If this isn’t a religious or cultural situation apologies. Hope this helped.

-Ebi

Hey,

You’re just going to have to keep it as real with him as you did with me. Say exactly how you feel, if that makes him run then he isn’t the one for you. Don’t make yourself feel uncomfortable to make someone else feel comfortable.  We overcomplicate issues sometimes, yes being that transparent can be scary, but the alternative is keeping quiet and getting your feelings hurt in one way or another.

-Ebi

Hey,

The error was in thinking you had to prove your loyalty for over a year before he eventually committed. I personally think there are trust issues that you have as a result of that wait and the different complicated issues surrounding loyalty that come with being in a situationship for so long. I personally feel like his swiftness to break up with you after calling you his ex twice in argument isn’t a good sign but all you can do is wait and see and by wait I mean live your life not stuck on this situation but open to receive the truth when it eventually comes to light. Everything you need to know past this point will be in his actions and the events to follow. There’s nothing you can do, you can’t force someone who doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, to commit.  So work on yourself for now.

-Ebi