Hey,

The error was in thinking you had to prove your loyalty for over a year before he eventually committed. I personally think there are trust issues that you have as a result of that wait and the different complicated issues surrounding loyalty that come with being in a situationship for so long. I personally feel like his swiftness to break up with you after calling you his ex twice in argument isn’t a good sign but all you can do is wait and see and by wait I mean live your life not stuck on this situation but open to receive the truth when it eventually comes to light. Everything you need to know past this point will be in his actions and the events to follow. There’s nothing you can do, you can’t force someone who doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, to commit.  So work on yourself for now.

-Ebi

Hey lovely,

Hmmm with this one, there could be so many reasons why he is acting the way he is acting but it’s important that you don’t assume it’s you until you know for sure. Ask him honestly, that you feel like he has been a bit down lately and not as enthusiastic as he used to be and tell him to let you know if anything is up and listen to him, let him speak. Tell him you want him to let you know if you’ve done anything to upset him at any point so that you can move forward. You could be overthinking which is why it’s important to let him speak, you could also be right which is why it’s important for him to address things, not everyone is as forthcoming and some people prefer passive aggressive ways of approaching issues, which is never best in a relationship so you need to make him feel comfortable enough to address what he needs to address, good or bad. If he says nothing is wrong, tell him you need the romance back in the relationship and that you miss his good morning texts and would appreciate receiving them from time to time and see where that goes.

-Ebi

Hey,

I think at the very least he should consider your feelings but that does not mean you’re right about that girl, (although ladies tend to be right in these situations, we can smell a shady girl from a mile away). However, he should make you feel comfortable with his friendship with her and reassure you that it’s just friendship if he truly cares about your feelings. So make him aware of how he is making you feel, ensure that there are boundaries in place. All you can do is trust in these situations until you are given solid reason to suggest that that friendship is highly inappropriate. If you continue to find yourself unhappy about this situation then you’re either going to have to let this issue go, or let him go. But the way I look at it is you cannot stop people from doing what they have every intention of doing, but you have every right to make a decision based on that behaviour when confronted with the facts. Hope this helped…

-Ebi

Hey,

You’re never going to know until he tells you, so based on the information you have provided, I say you fall back and go on with your life. Be open to the fact that he may not be interested in you anymore and there’s nothing you can do about that until you know the reasons why and since he isn’t being transparent all you can do is keep it pushing, because if you don’t do that you may find yourself getting hurt.

-Ebi

Hey lovely,

It seems as though you’re in a relationship with someone who is too afraid to offend, he’s a people pleaser which can be quite embarrassing for you as his girlfriend because it leaves you open to attack/shade from girls who don’t know him like you do. You know that he probably has the best intentions and does love you, but these girls see his friendliness as more than what it is. So yes, it is inappropriate and you need to tell him that any of these girls can turn around at any point and say “your man was in my dm’s” or “your man did so and so”. So let him know it offends you and that boundaries need to be put in place. He needs to learn to ignore messages, those girls won’t die, he needs to respectfully tell these girls he has a girlfriend and if they continue harassing him inappropriately he needs to unfollow or block and then wait and see if he puts this into action. If he insists on not listening to you, then there comes a point where you stop talking and choose your happiness and only you know what that is.

-Ebi