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Hi Oloni , I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years now & as time goes by more and more girls are trying to move to me but the thing about me is that I’m terrible in those situations where a girl is pushing up on me or when a girl is in my dm’s or sending me stuff on snapchat , I don’t know how to say no if you get me , I don’t want to get tempted into doing something silly and ultimately breaking my girl’s heart because I do genuinely love her , what do I do ?
21. August 2016
Temptation will always be around, and women will always try to go after what they can’t have. I have no idea why lol. Anyway, the best thing to do is ignore, tell the it’ inappropriate and that you’re taken or simply delete them as a contact.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, i’ve been in a lowkey relationship with this guy for 8 months now we haven’t said we’re officially dating but he talks of the future, includes me in his plans, and even talks about taking trips! he’s not a lowkey person and he’s very known in my city and females tend to gravitate towards him. He’s very friendly and has many female friends which i’m fine with but an altercation happened with this one “friend” who has feelings for him and made it public she did and he did nothing about it. Also the only people who really know we have something are my friends and his close close friends and brother, he doesn’t post pictures of me or snapchats or anything when we’re together which is odd because he snaps basically his whole life! i’m not really concerned about the being showed on social media but it’s just odd i feel like i’m being hidden away. I just want to know if you think i should move on and forget him or try and work things out.
21. August 2016
I think you should have a conversation about it. If you’re not in a relationship, you shouldn’t be moved by what he does on his social media. Don’t commit to a guy who hasn’t committed to you girl.
Oloni
Hey Oloni I just want to know if this makes me a bad person, or a hoe. I lost my virginity at the age of 14 and I’m 22 I’ve been with 10 guys 3 of them being In a actual relationship with. 2 being one night stands, 4 on & off situationships, and the most recent guy I’m dealing with now. I feel like shit that it’s been 10 guys. It’s not that I just give it up, but you just find yourself in some situations & then next thing you know you gave apart of yourself to someone & things don’t work out. 10 is too much for me never saw myself here I don’t judge anyone else & I’m not asking to be judged. But I just really want to know if 10 guys make me look like a bad person or a hoe. Like I don’t consider myself a hoe because I do have self control just that I can fall short easily. Idk what I’m really looking for writing to you lol but I just wanted to ask and see ?
21. August 2016
Bless! Hun 10 or 50 guys is not an issue. As long as you’re having safe sex you have nothing to worry about. You’re 22 years old and grown, who you sleep with is your business, stop panicking. There is no real definition of hoe, it’s just a word used to police where a woman feels like placing her vagina. Have sex because you want to, not because of what anyone else has to say!
My boyf pleases me so much in bed, he’s simply amazing. He knows how to make a girl feel good. Not that he complains or anything. I’m really shy to go on top of him, cause I’m not that comfortable with my body . Even though he always tells me it’s banging. Anytime I try to get untop I just loose so much confidence. I want to be able to take control in bed too. Then I also have an issue with my stamina. I can take d for about 45 mins. But when I’m on top I run out of breath so quick. How can this be changed ? And how can I improve my confidence and give my man the ride of his life
21. August 2016
The ride of his life! < Love that lol! Okay now with a bit of practice you can definitely get to this stage. First of all .. work on your confidence in bed, anyone will tell you that confidence from a woman is the sexiest thing about her. Why not go lingerie shopping to find a few sexy bits? This will give you all the confidence you need to jump on top and do your thing.
You have to be able to become sexually comfortable and do what you enjoy the most in bed with your partner THEN slowly work up to other daring positions such as riding him. Listen to your partner in bed and find out what really gets him going. When it comes to your stamina, try starting slowly on top of him so you can last longer. He can even help from being underneath by thrusting into you. Keep trying and in no time, he’ll be able to enjoy that ride of his life girl!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m currently in a long distance relationship and so we’re both suffering lool but how do we have great phone sex? I’m not good at it at all. Any tips and tricks to help a sister desperately in need?!
21. August 2016
Try and get completely comfortable with each other and flirt. Use your imagination and tell your partner what you’d do to him if he was by your side, or what you’d like him to do to you. Get a glass of wine, vibrator and you’ll find yourself saying the naughtiest things.
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