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My boyfriend is reluctant to go down on me. He did it once and told me he didn’t feel comfortable. I don’t know what’s wrong. How can I make things better. I want him to be comfortable. And I want him to want me in that way. I go down on him all the time.
4. September 2016
Hey hun, I know its frustrating when your partner isn’t into what you like during sex…but if he doesn’t feel comfortable performing oral sex on you, all you can do is suggest things that can make it more enjoyable IF he’s open to it. An example is flavoured lube, but that’s only if he’s open to ideas. If not you’re going to have to accept how he feels.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, so I was on tinder and saw a guy I was acquaintances with at uni. Naturally I swiped right, we matched and got talking. I went away for a month so had no access to tinder but when I came back we started speaking again. He gave me his phone number and we were talking pretty much every day. I asked him out for drinks one evening very casually and his response was ‘maybe towards the end of the month.’ So I left the ball in his court. Continue talking but now he’s ghosting. It’s been a week since I heard from him which is such a change from the way he was acting this last month. Should I just take this as a sign he’s not interested and delete his number?
4. September 2016
He could have other responsibilities/temporarily broke/not interested it’s such a tricky one, but if I were you I’d save my self the trouble of deciphering what’s going on and ask if he’s still interested in meeting up some time, then make my final judgement by his response. Regardless of the situation, get back on your dating apps and look for more lucky guys to swipe right to.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been talking to this Guy for about 9 months now, I’m the one who is always messages first and if I don’t message first we basically won’t talk. However when I message first he doesn’t give dead replies and seems interested in our conversations. I really like this guy but have no idea where he is at with regards to us talking and I don’t want to ask him how he feels. Should I just leave it and move on and should I still try with him without asking how he feels?
4. September 2016
He sounds like just a nice guy that replies whenever you message first. I don’t think he’s that into you if I’m honest. People who want something (even if it’s just sex) usually initiate conversations from time to time.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m 21 and live with my parents. They’re over protective and quite old school. I normally don’t mind but when it comes to dating it means I can’t stay with bae overnight and I can’t even lie about going to a friends because they’re against that too. I can’t tell them the truth coz it will only end up in endless lectures from them, aunties and pastor’s on “Godly Dating”. How do I go about doing me without damaging my relationship with my parents?
4. September 2016
I think you should try and talk to them. Explain you’re an adult and that although you will take on board what they’re saying, you are allowed to make your own decisions. Even if he can’t stay around yours I don’t think it’s fair they make your own relationship decisions.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so I’m in a relationship with this guy and he was in a relationship not too long before we became official. I recently took his phone to send something to myself and although I’m not the type that goes through anyone’s phone, i “stumbled” on videos of him and his ex being “relationshipy”. He was basically naked in one of them. I understand the relationship hadn’t been over that long but am I wrong for feeling like he needs to delete all that shit? And how do I go about telling him to.
4. September 2016
Hey hun, it can be easily resolved. Tell him what happened, explain how it made you feel and that you’d prefer if he deleted the video. That’s all.
Oloni
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