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Hey Oloni, I have a best friend dilemma. She’s recently gotten into a new relationship with a guy she really likes and wants to marry. The guy doesn’t want to make things offical (bf/gf titles) and just wants to see where things go but they’ve decided to date exclusively. Since them both making that decision she’s completely gone awal and stopped speaking to me and any of her other friends I’m afraid that she’s becoming one of those girls who when they get a boyfriend cut off all their friends. We used to speak every day-all day and now I haven’t spoken to her in over two weeks. I tried to talk to her about it sensitively to say that I haven’t heard from her in a while what’s up and she’s was just like I’m around and gave the deadest reply. Like
15. September 2016
Hi oloni, I’ve been with my girl for 4 months and feel like I like her more than she likes me, I’ve never had feelings for someone like this, she doesn’t like thinking about the future she has been in a long relationship before hand and wanted to congratulate ex on job promotion , I sometimes have bad spells where I overthink and say terrible things like on photos she posts and her last seen and stuff how can I make the relationship more happy again
15. September 2016
It sounds like you might be a bit insecure. Being in a relationship for 4 months is way too soon to feel these things. You should still be in your honeymoon stage! I do think you need to have a conversation with her and get this off your chest.
You mentioned that she’s been in a long term relationship, so talking about the future might be a bit much, it is still very early days. As for texting her ex, I can completely understand why that would make you feel uncomfortable. If you find her communicating with him more and more speak up and address it.
Make your relationship happy again by spending more time together and creating new fun loving experiences, but most importantly tackling your insecurities.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been talking to this guy properly for about a month now but I’ve know him since Easter. However before I was still involved with my ex, so I didn’t really take him serious until recently since now me and my Ex have broken up for good and he has a new girlfriend and all that good stuff. Anyways I was wondering when do you think would be a good time to have sex with this guy, because my beliefs are kinda old school. Like I think you should a have sex once your boyfriend and girlfriend, but then I understand if it happens before that’s OKAY. But also I think if he’s already tried the good, why would he want to wifey you? Childish right lol. Let me know what you think
15. September 2016
Hey love, I think you should get to know this dude further before you think about jumping into the sack with him. Allow yourself to know more about his character and let the rest follow. I believe in having sex when you’re comfortable, for some that could be three weeks into a relationship of three months of dating and not exclusively. It all boils down to you.
One thing I will say is, if having sex in a relationship is for you, the stick to that, but don’t panic if it doesn’t turn out that way. A guy can pull a runner out of a relationship the same way he can inside one IF he’s just after sex.
Hope that helped.
Oloni
Hi oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months. I spent this summer abroad, away from him for about 6 weeks. However 2 days into my holiday I got drunk and kissed my friend. My boyfriend said he knew it would happen because of the way I talk to this said friend as apparently I lead him on. Long story short he was able to forgive me and things were back to normal. However few weeks later I got drunk again and ended up cheating again. My boyfriend said he can’t trust me again and he broke up with me. I know what I did was wrong and I feel sick. I want to give him some space but he already said he’s losing all the love he ever had for me. Do you think there’s still a chance in the future of us getting back together or should I learn to let him go?
4. September 2016
I’ve been with my man for some months now and we just moved in together. He wants to split all the bills entirely but he makes way more than me. I don’t think it’s fair and not to sound like a princess but I’m used to guys spoiling me. He didn’t buy me anything for my bday because he was broke and now that he has this good job he still haven’t made it up to me. Idc Ima good woman but I hope him being cheap doesn’t ruin our relationship.
4. September 2016
It’s fine to have your expectations, but girl, if he didn’t get you a a missing eye teddy bear for your birthday, what made you think he’d handle most of the costs when moving in together? I’m sure you’ve always had an idea of your partners spending habits. Right now I think you need to have a conversation with him and if you can’t split the bills move out.
Oloni
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