Hey lovely,

This made me smile so much!!!!! I’m so glad you’re in a better space and listen there is someone out here for everyone, don’t you worry about that. Keep doing you, working on yourself and your child, growing and ensuring that anyone that comes into your life respects you and treats you how you should be treated. And I laughed at you saying you wanted to reply to people haha, you made the right decision because boy oh boy, too many people in your business is never a good thing!!!!Wishing you all the best lovely.

Ebi

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Hey lovely,

It’s simple, tell him you’re confused and need clarity. Figure out what exactly you want to know and ask him. Tell him you just want straight answers and want to know where he thinks this is going, it’s only been two months, do not leave that conversation confused, if you’re still confused then simply put this isn’t for you because even if he did have every intention of getting in a relationship eventually, your timing and his timing do not match up, he probably wants to take things slower than you, so maybe friendship whilst you do your thing in that case may be more appropriate and if you rekindle things then so be it.

ebi

Hey lovely,

Three possibilities; familiarity, loneliness or idleness/boredom. You need to find something to fill that gap, you need to make more memories, be adventurous, do and explore different things, meet new people. Also know when your thoughts are irrational or stem from curiosity and try not to read into them, so once you get them dismiss them or counter them with the facts, the facts being that your relationship wasn’t healthy. Maybe you need some closure, but only you will know whether seeing him right now would do more bad than good, so don’t rush into that and don’t deceive yourself. Also sometimes you obsess over a person not because you want to get back with them or you think it’s sensible to get back with them but because how it ended doesn’t sit right with you, you almost want to correct your wrongs and that’s fine, as long as the other person is willing to speak and you feel you’re in the right space to do that, if not you’ll have to give yourself closure.

Ebi

hey,

if you’re not happy, leave. As for the cheating, if you can 100% trust that your friend is not jobless and trying to ruin your relationship, go with what he said, talk to your man, then leave. forget about how much you love him and think about whether your friend is telling the truth and go by that and hopefully when you talk to your man, he has the decency to be honest.

ebi

Hey,

I’m not sure what you’re trying to say by comparing it to a crack-house, like dirtiness or actually drugs. Either way, what I do know is that the best way to go about that is to be honest but to also help. If you’re going to stay with him, ensure that your criticism is followed by a helpful solution. If you want to leave then respectfully leave. However, I do think before you do so ask him why it’s like that, sometimes people may be going through things and maybe his family situation in general might be toxic…based on his answer and you expressing your opinion you can see whether he is willing to change for him (not you) his own well-being and health, surely that cannot be healthy, if that doesn’t happen then leave it (this is all assuming you’re not talking about drugs btw).

Ebi