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My boyf pleases me so much in bed, he’s simply amazing. He knows how to make a girl feel good. Not that he complains or anything. I’m really shy to go on top of him, cause I’m not that comfortable with my body . Even though he always tells me it’s banging. Anytime I try to get untop I just loose so much confidence. I want to be able to take control in bed too. Then I also have an issue with my stamina. I can take d for about 45 mins. But when I’m on top I run out of breath so quick. How can this be changed ? And how can I improve my confidence and give my man the ride of his life
21. August 2016
The ride of his life! < Love that lol! Okay now with a bit of practice you can definitely get to this stage. First of all .. work on your confidence in bed, anyone will tell you that confidence from a woman is the sexiest thing about her. Why not go lingerie shopping to find a few sexy bits? This will give you all the confidence you need to jump on top and do your thing.
You have to be able to become sexually comfortable and do what you enjoy the most in bed with your partner THEN slowly work up to other daring positions such as riding him. Listen to your partner in bed and find out what really gets him going. When it comes to your stamina, try starting slowly on top of him so you can last longer. He can even help from being underneath by thrusting into you. Keep trying and in no time, he’ll be able to enjoy that ride of his life girl!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m currently in a long distance relationship and so we’re both suffering lool but how do we have great phone sex? I’m not good at it at all. Any tips and tricks to help a sister desperately in need?!
21. August 2016
Try and get completely comfortable with each other and flirt. Use your imagination and tell your partner what you’d do to him if he was by your side, or what you’d like him to do to you. Get a glass of wine, vibrator and you’ll find yourself saying the naughtiest things.
Oloni
I’m sure I’m bicurious as I’ve wanted to stuff with girls for ages – I’m now ready to act on these thoughts however, I don’t know how to go about it , what would you suggest? Thanks xx
21. August 2016
Hey hun, I think the best way to meet the same sex you’d like to experiment with is by putting yourself out there and trying to surround yourself in a different environment. You could also try online apps, that allow you to meet women who are up for a bit of fun, good luck.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’ve been in relationship with my girl for 10 months I’m 26 and she’s 21 and I’m her first relationship and sexual experience. I love being around her and she makes me feel so blessed that I have her in my life she’s really special. The problem which may sound small is that she hasn’t told her friends about me, her mum/dad/siblings know but that’s it. She also doesn’t post any pictures or snapchats when she’s with me which is very weird because she’s the type of person that snaps everything and loves to share what’s going on in her life, she struggles to keep things inside and loves to share good news. Im not saying I want her to showcase me because really I’m not fussed tbh I’m just a bit confused as to why someone so public would shy away from letting her friends now about me and our relationship so low key when she is not a low key person. I’ve mentioned it and she’s just brushed it off I feel like there’s more to it but have no idea how to get it out of her.
17. August 2016
Hey hun, I think you should seriously turn around and ask ‘what’s up?’ I find it strange when people share every bit of their life but without their partner, however your relationship is 10 months and she probably may want to keep it private. Either way talk and communicate!
Oloni
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Hey oloni, I was with a guy for 8 months & he was my first boyfriend. A few months ago we broke up because he put his hands on me, he didn’t hit me, but he was very rough especially when it wasn’t my fault. We spilt, he sincerely apologised & we moved on. Then recently, we’ve spilt again because I found out he brought his ex to his house (he said he hasn’t cheated), he told his other ex that he misses her (she’s been a recurring issue this whole relationship) & was messaging girls inappropriately. He now swears that he’s cut them all off because he realises that he ‘loves’ me. He can be manipulative/ controlling aswell. I’ve been told that I can do so much better but no one has taken care of me like he has. It’s just weird because his mum knows about me, he treats me well apart from those things & he gave me the keys to his apartment. So I don’t get it. Maybe he’s just not ready? I’m stuck between waiting to see if things will get better or that he might not be the one.
17. August 2016
You need to leave this guy alone. End of.
Oloni
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