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Hi Oloni, Basically i have a situation, well it’s not really a situation but me being denied my right. Last year i had a drunken three some with Guy A (Host in the rave industry and he also does party island holiday packages,) and Guy B (UK Rapper) and from this i got pregnant. At first when i told them i was pregnant Guy A said he will do a dna test when it comes down to it whilst Guy B said i was dead to him if i didnt have an abortion which I refused to. I am now approaching my due date and have asked Guy A to do a dna test who has now said he is probably not the father as within that week i had continuous sex with Guy B which he knew of from the beginning. So he has now refused to do a dna test. I messaged Guy B who blocked me straight on the only means of contact i had for him as he has already blocked me on everything else. I know it was irresponsible of me to have unprotected sex with 2 guys and i have owned it but i just don’t understand why they are refusing the dna test. I have already told both of them that even if they still don’t want to be involved after knowing who the dad is i am cool with that but my child even for (God Forbid) a health issue deserves to know who the dad is. Am i wrong for expecting a dna test? You can put this up on twitter. I know some people will probably be mean with their responses but i already expect it. Thanks.
17. August 2016
Hey hun, I’m glad you’ve realised the error that was made, safe sex should always come first especially in these type of cases. This is such a tough one because the guys who participated refuse to take a DNA test, which shows they’re clearly trying to run away from a huge responsibility, and that isn’t fair on you. I think you really need to take this further and offer them both a last chance to take the test on their own. If that fails, then you can ask a court to accept your claim about who someone’s parents are. See this link for more info https://www.gov.uk/get-dna-test
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I met this really great gut early this year. He’s so bomb and so cool. We got really close and after a few months we had sex and he’s my first. We are still really tight but we didn’t make it official. Now he’s saying he’s going to be away for about six months in another state and he doesn’t think he can do long distance. We hardly fight or quarrel but when we do we settle immediately. I’ve tried my best to convince him that we could still work out but he’s saying he doesn’t think he could cope. I really love him and I just can’t let him go cos of this minor issue. Please what can I do to make him stay in it? I can’t lose him tbh
16. August 2016
Oh hun! You can’t make a man stay where he doesn’t want to, I think from his point it might have just been ‘it was great while it lasted’ and nothing more. He has been honest and explained he wouldn’t be able to settle for LD. Respect it and move on.
Oloni
hi oloni I love your blog btw , my boyfriend recently found out he had an sti and he gave it to me. Suddenly I accused him of cheating which is the obvious reason since we were having unprotected sex for 8 months and when I got checked mid way through our relationship I was clean so. However he claims he did not cheat and probably got it before me as he was on and off with another girl and I was a virgin when I met him. I don’t know what to do now he did tell me that this would never happen again but should I leave him?
16. August 2016
So it’s obvious he cheated. He also put your health at risk and you need to understand that STI’s are not a joke. I think you should give yourself some time from the relationship then decide what you want.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, Congrats on the nomination and the blue tick I voted for you! My problem is I’m falling for my best friend he recently came out of a relationship but he made clear that his feelings were mutual, since the break up we haven’t spoken about it but I want him so badly do I confront him about it and go for it or wait a while? Xx
16. August 2016
Hey love, thanks! Give it some time then let him know how you feel.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, sooo I’ve decided to start having sex with my boyfriend (safely don’t worry!), we’ve tried it about twice now and well everything goes where it should lol but I’m just wondering when on earth am I going to start feeling anything? Pleasurable, that is and whether it’s weird I don’t like it yet like is it possible to be one of those women who don’t enjoy sex (am I being dramatic ?) ? Also, any useful tips for girl first timers e.g positions and such. Thanks in advance and congratulations on your blue tickkkk!!!
16. August 2016
Hey hun! Welcome to the sex world and well done for being safe about it. I think you might need to focus less on positions and more on foreplay. Positions are great but if you’re not heated up sexually it doesn’t really matter how you do it. Ask your partner to spend more time pleasing and teasing you before diving straight into penetration. Neck kisses, fingering, rubbing, soft biting, humping lol! for at least 20 minutes.
Oloni
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