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Hi Oloni, I’m no where near a virgin but for some reason with my new boyfriend we’ve had sex twice and I’ve bled each time. I know you’re not a doctor but have you heard anything of the sort before?
9. August 2016
Hey hun, I have. Don’t worry it is a thing but go and see a doctor or a sexual health nurse.
Hi Oloni, I just need to be clear on something. I have a boyfriend and sex with him is AMAZING!!! He goes down on me everytime…I mean he is always glad to give me head because that’s the only way I can cum. Now my problem is he is the first guy I have actually enjoyed oral sex with. I have never given head to my past lovers (I really don’t like it) and I shy away from them giving it too. I suck at giving head like i can’t give head to save my life. (LOL) Anyway my boyfriend said he isn’t ‘freaked’ by it (Blow job) but most times I feel bad when we have sex and we are willing to go another round but the D is still limp and I know giving head would actually help but I cant?. I have tried most times and he knows I try but I just feel I’m being selfish by not being able to give him head. I mean is there a guy that doesn’t like to receive head? He does not seem to be bothered tho…So what do you think? Do you think I should just stop trying and not be bbothered since he claims he isn’t?
1. August 2016
Hey dear! I love the fact that you’re genuinely trying even though your partner isn’t bothered. If you don’t like something then you don’t like it. However, if you want to practice and try on different occasions I would suggest adding something to the mix to make it more enjoyable… like flavoured lube. You can get it from any adult store. All you do slather the lube on his penis and give him head with it on, only it tastes really great and makes it more enjoyable for you. This is jut a suggestion not something you HAVE to do. Either way good luck!
Oloni
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Didn’t realise you didn’t answer advice on curious cat (my bad) so reposting here haha. What’s your advice to someone in their early 20’s that hasn’t been in a relationship before? Pretty much everyone around me is boo’d up and it’s always been this way… Idk, it’s hard to not think that there’s something wrong with you and that you’re gonna stay alone forever ? I mean I say I “don’t do relationships” but I guess it’s cause I’ve never had one and now it just looks kinda scary and so foreign but I lowkey wonder if that makes sense?
1. August 2016
Hey hun, calm down! Plenty of folks are in relationships with single people so stop going crazy. It’s okay to say, ‘I’m ready to be in a relationship’ there’s nothing wrong with it at all. My advice is to work on YOURSELF work on being the best version, so you know what you have to offer. Try to date more, go to new places to meet new people, use dating apps, go to different social events, follow new people on social media. EXERCISE the art of dating and you’ll see a drastic change in your love life.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been exluseively dating this guy for over a year and we had a very active sex life and i believe we have mad chemistry. So told him i wanted sex after two months of celibacy that i decided i needed and he said when he was in need i turned him down so he does not want to do it anymore, that unless i’m willing to work for it (get a hotel room for us, get food, seduce him etc etc) he will not do it. According to him that’s not revenge that he just needs me to understand that i cant have my way with him all the time especially when i was so inconsiderate when he wanted it. Do you think as a girl i need to err “work for it”?
1. August 2016
He sounds like an idiot and a scammer. Please find someone else to f*ck. He is not worthy
Oloni
Hi Oloni, Straight to the point, I cheated but my boyfriend suffers from mild depression (not diagnosed). I feel bad and wanted to tell him but a lot of time has passed. I don’t want to trigger his low moments. And right now he states that I’m the only thing making him happy. I genuinely am sorry for what I’ve done. I want to know whether I should still tell him. I’ve made a mistake and really know I’ll never do it again. What do you think I should do?
1. August 2016
Hey! This is a really tough one due to the boyfriends health, however you do still need to tell him. Have a conversation about it and explain exactly what happened and why it happened. He might even appreciate your honesty, even if it’s a lot to handle at first.
However at the same time if you DO feel like this is something that can seriously affect him physically, then I would suggest you keep it to yourself, these are just my honest thoughts.
You also need to reflect on everything and ask yourself whether or not this relationship is something you can seriously commit to.
Oloni
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