Hi Oloni, I have been dating this girl for 3 months now. In the last month alone she has gone from hating her ex to them speaking frequently and even hanging out every week. She says she just friends and there is nothing to worry about. I got fed up with it last week and I told her it’s either she goes with her ex or she focuses on our relationship. She picked me but now she said she needs some space and time so she doesn’t resent me for making her make a decision quickly. Her Instagram was logged on my phone and her noticed they are still speaking and now he is saying stuff like I love you And you know I’ll do anything to make it work. She not telling off but she’s saying stuff like I know. What should I do please? Should I leave her or go after the ex
1. August 2016
You need to have a conversation with her, explaining what you saw and how it made you feel. It sounds like she still has unfinished business with her ex and almost as if she hasn’t moved on. This isn’t really someone you stick it out with because she’s clearly not ready to move forward. Please don’t go after her ex. The only reason he feels comfortable messaging her is because she’s allowed him to feel so.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been seeing a guy for about 5/6 months we are not officially in a relationship or anything but we have sex regularly. I’ve just found out his baby mum is pregnant again and also whilst he was fucking w/ me he was also fucking with another girl and has been for the past year. I’d be kidding myself if I said I haven’t caught feelings. He took my virginity and ever since then I’ve become so attached to him. Do I have the right to confront. I’m
1. August 2016
Hey Oloni! Basically I’ve been dating a guy for a week but I’ve been speaking to him for like 3 months. He loves anal too much and it makes him cum quickly but it hurts and does not satisfy me. I’m scared he’ll leave me if I tell him I no longer want to do anal. What should I do?
1. August 2016
Um why are you putting your discomfort second just because you’re afraid he’ll leave? Stop being silly and speak up. If he leaves then so the f*ck what?
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve been with my partner for over 2 years now. We’ve been through “a lot” and our live has been tested . I could say we are in a ok space right now. I have asked my partner couple of times on what are his future plans for the 2 years and all I ever seem to get is “I no longer plan things” I just take life as it is. But I said in life “you can’t walk with your eyes closed” . When I asked about taking our relationship more serious he said “he’s still young, wants to enjoy his life” (coming from a 25 year old) I just don’t understand he doesn’t want to be single but he also wants to spend time with his friends. I just constantly feel like I’m in battle to see him and when I tell him , he says I should stop complaining. I don’t want to end things because our relation has great potential but I don’t want to be in the same position as I am now in 2-5 years because progression is key. Can you advice me on things I could say to him to make him buckle up and take US seriously?
1. August 2016
Hey hun, there is nothing in this world that you and I can tell a grown man when it comes to taking a relationship seriously. If I’m honest you’re no better than him, because you’re not listening to what he’s told you. If he has explained how he feels about the relationship, believe him and decide what YOU will do, stay and deal with the things you’re unhappy with, or leave and start something with someone who wants all the things you do.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I have been talking to a guy for about 4months now and we have been sleeping together but he is still very flirty and sexually suggestive towards other girls on social media. He makes empty promises about taking me out on a date and always has some excuse but always wants to ‘chill’. I just need advice to see if I should have the ‘talk’ with him to see where this is going or if I should just drift because it seems like he is wasting my time.
28. July 2016
You’ve been talking for 4 months and haven’t even seen the inside of TGI’s? But here he is flirting with other women even though he’s sleeping with you… FOUR MONTHS?
Gurl.
Oloni
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