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Hey Oloni, I’m 21 and a virgin. I’ve done other things with guys but never slept with them as it never felt right. The roast is becoming very but i also want it to be with the right person – however i dont know when this right person may come along. Do i continue waiting for mr right? 3. October 2016

Hey hun I would advise that you wait for ‘Mr Comfortable’ meaning you wait till you meet someone you can explore your sexuality with without second guessing it so much. Remember there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at 21. You can still enjoy your sexuality that way.. Masturbating for example!

Oloni

Hello, even anonymously I’m nervous to ask. I’m 23 been with my boyfriend (21 years old) for a year and when we partake in sexual intercourse he doesn’t cum inside me even though I’m on birth control. Him ejaculating in me is something that REALLY turns me on. He made a jokey comment about not wanting to be trapped which makes me feel like he doesn’t trust me.. Am I over reacting? Should I bring it to his attention?! HELP. 3. October 2016

Hey hun, this is something you’re going to have to discuss with him. It’s great you’re on contraception, and taking extra precautions, but now, you have speak up about what’s bothering you during sexual intimacy.

Even if he chooses the withdrawl method while having sex just before he cums there are different areas on your body he can also ejaculate on.. suggest it, to let him know it turns you on if he’s not completely down with going all the way.

Oloni

Hey oloni, so I’m in first year and this third year moved to me he’s really sweet good looking he says he’s looking for something long term has introduced me to his friends we talk everyday (bare in mind it’s only been 2 weeks) he wants to have sex and anytime we’re alone he attempts, we haven’t as of yet how do I know if he’s a serious candidate? Does he just want to have sex and leave me even though he keeps promising he’s going nowhere 3. October 2016

Two weeks is too soon. Get to know him more just in case he could be running game. Spend more time together etc. Being introduced to his friends does not necessarily mean he wants you to be his girlfriend.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, I’m in a 6 month old relationship. My boyfriend is kinda like a one minute man.. Although he tries to get me off before penetration but it hardly ever works.. I don’t think I’ve ever had an orgasm so I don’t really know what I’m missing. The thing is, I still hook up with my ex of over 3 years (whenever he’s in town). I had a huge fight with my man and hooked up with my ex.. Not like I still have feelings for him or anything, it’s just that he lasts longer and i enjoy sex better with him. I feel kinda guilty for hooking up with him.. I don’t know if it counts as cheating.. I also don’t know what to do about my boyfriends 1min predicament.. 28. September 2016

Eeek girl this is cheating. You had sex with someone else outside of your relationship. What else did you think this would be called? First I think you need to let your boyfriend know whats going on and how you feel. I’m sure he’s aware of not being able to last long, but there are a few ways around that. He could try a cock ring for example. Cock rings have been said to be a great way to help a guy last longer between the sheets.

If someone you’re with exclusively isn’t satisfying you, you speak to them and address it, you don’t hook up with an ex.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, i have been married to my wife for 5 years and our marriage was going well up until we had a child and i cheated on her. we got past the issue and have moved now every time we have argument she always always brings up the cheating incident and she always attacks me with things of the past the failures of my family please help!! 28. September 2016

Hey! Staying in a commitment where you’ve chosen to move past mistakes is never going to be easy, but if you’ve chosen to work on things, bringing up old mishaps will never help. You need to have a conversation with your Mrs and explain how you feel about this matter. It’s very obvious this isn’t something she’s over and she probably hasn’t forgiven you. I think you should both go for a few counselling sessions with a professional to help work on your marriage. Suggest it to her, I’m sure she’d agree.

Good luck hun.

Oloni

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