Why are you still with him if he makes you feel all these things? Either have a conversation about it, or be done. Relationships are not a must have.

Oloni

Hey girl, thanks for your awesome words!! Right, there could be a number of reasons as to why it hurts. I’m going to take a guess and assume the foreplay before penetration might not be enough, so make sure you’re kissing, fondling, enjoying oral sex before getting down to it. You have to give your body a chance to prepare for sex, if you know what I mean.

You could also try popping down to an adult store and purchasing a water based lubricant. This makes intimacy feel A LOT more better, as you’re more unlikely to feel any pain.

If none of the above work see a gynaecologist!

Oloni

Leave it, he’s no longer your concern.

Oloni

Eeek! What a pickle. First, remember when you do favours for people never expect anything back because that’s called business, not a favour love.

However your frustration makes sense, being stingy is such a nasty trait and one you need to talk to him about. Express how some of his recent actions have made you feel, but don’t come with an angle of ‘When your ass was broke, who fed you?’ – lol. Approach him off the fact that needs to not be so tight as it’s very off putting for any woman.

If he still carries on and you don’t notice an effort of change being made, it then becomes your decision to stay or not.

Good luck

Oloni

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Aww this message brightened up my evening. I actually remember you writing in too. Thank you for your lovely words and I’m glad to hear it worked out well! Please do keep me updated

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