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Hi me and my ex (who I split up with 3 years ago) for the past year have been having sex every couple of months. He hardly ever messages me but when we are together, he hints at being in a relationship with me. He has never been great with expressing his emotions. Should I ask him how he feels or will that be embarrassing for me? I’m not sure what I want from him myself. X
4. December 2016
The sex is complicating things for the both of you, so I’d suggest you stop sleeping with him till you know what exactly it is you want.
If it’s still a relationship, just simply tell him how you feel and see how he responds.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, my ex boyfriend and i are madly in love still but we cannot be together as he’s a nigerian christian and im an african arabian muslim. I cannot imagine my life without him. We came to a mutual agreement 2 months ago but we still cant let go (we still have sex too). I dont wanna move on, i want to marry him but it is my parents that will not accept him as he’s not a muslim (i dont want to lose my family). It would have been easier if he had converted like he said he would. I cant stand being apart from him, please help!!x
30. November 2016
I answer a very similar question to this in my eBook #DearOloni coming out soon. Look out for it!
So I was with my ex for nearly two years. Me and him was good throughout our relationship until the last couple months before our relationship was basically hanging. When I first met him he was a broke and had no ambition. And I done my best to motivate him by doing up is CV, giving him money for essential needs. And now he’s saying he needs to focus on him future without me but now is with another girl… and I still have his stuff in my house, what should I do?
30. November 2016
Give it back? If you do something from the heart you have to be prepared for the outcome with or without you.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, I cheated on my boyfriend last night and I feel bad. I don’t want to tell him but I want to forgive myself and move on from the situation. I was very drunk and I’ve never done that before. I am afraid of the person I become when I’m intoxicated. Please advise me
30. November 2016
This sounds a bit unfair doesn’t it? You cheated and you want to move on and forgive yourself? What about the person you were actually disloyal to? I have no advice for you, because you’ve made up your mind about how you will handle the situation.
One thing however, if you’re afraid of the person you become when you’re drunk…then dont drink.
Oloni
When I was younger I stupidly caught and sti. Got symptoms so got untreated right away. Years later I’m in a serious relationship. Been together nearly 2 years and I don’t use contraception. He always pulls out before he cums. I haven’t gotten pregnant. How much of a chance is it I am infertile because of having chlamydia for a few weeks? I’m really worried.
30. November 2016
The withdrawal method isn’t a form of contraception so please start using condoms unless you’re trying to get pregnant. Many people have been treated for STI’s and are still able to have children so I wouldn’t worry about being infertile. I also think it’d be sensible to get another check up.
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