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Hi Oloni. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months, we were getting a house together and had our whole future planned from having babies to getting married. We both love eachother and he worships the ground I walk on. 2 days ago I found out he cheated on my in August. He slept with her twice that night without using a condom. He is apologising and crying. We both haven’t ate or slept in days. I still love him and want to be with him but the girl he cheated on me with says that they’ve slept together throughout our whole relationship. I have dropped all my friends and quit my job for this guy so I solely rely on him for everything. What do I do?
4. October 2017
He’s an asshole, but you’ve made so many errors of your own sis. Never in your life depend on a man, that is the biggest and fastest way to set yourself up for failure.
He probably did sleep with her throughout the relationship and if you do take him back he’ll do it again.
Dry your tears, pick yourself up and look for a job.
You will be fine.
Oloni
Hey oloni I recently started dating this guy and he was perfect, lookswise and good personality. However recently we Netflix and chilled and I was so horny I ended up taking it to the bedroom. When it got down to it and he pulled it out it was small. Also when he went in he lasted one stroke. Oloni I was so disappointed. His excuse was I was too ‘lubricated’. We tried again and I still couldn’t feel him. I really like him and he’s an amazing guy but sex is a big part of a relationship for me. Ever since that day whenever he’s tried to touch me sexually or initiate sex I’ve basically refused and made excuses because I don’t want to be dissapointed. I’m really confused on whether to end it or find a way to make it work.
3. October 2017
Why not try other forms of sexual acts? You can’t really tell what someones like in bed based off very little action. If you like him, try again and this time, make sure the foreplay lasts longer. Tell him what you enjoy in bed most and communicate.
Hi oloni, Me and my ex dated for about 2 years. Things were going great but then my boyfriend put on ALOT of weight and it fully turned me off him. The thought of having sex with him again made me fill nauseous. It got to the point where everything he did just pissed me off and one day we had a big argument and I said some really mean things about his weight then broke up with him. I was lonely for about a year, haven’t had sex or even been on a date. So I started thinking about him and I looked at his social media. When I say this guy is now RIPPED, I couldn’t even believe it. He lost all that weight and he looks even more handsome than when we first met. I’ve been thinking about him everyday and feel terrible for how I left things. I really want to message him but I’m scared at how things may turn out. Should I just leave him alone?
2. October 2017
Yes, leave him alone. You were incredibly nasty to him. Hopefully you’ve learned from that experience.
I went on a date with this guy who’s DM’s I slid into. In messages everything was amazing and when we first met he looked amazing. I thought the date was great but he didn’t text me after for a few days so I messaged him. He said he’s not interested in me because “I didn’t offer to split the bill”. for him he says it says a lot about the woman’s character. I didn’t think this would be a big deal but after that date I’m head over heels for this guy already. Is there anyway you think I can fix this?
2. October 2017
Let it go hun. There’s others.
Oloni
I have been having thoughts of cheating on my boyfriend. We have been together for 10 months. He doesn’t satisfy my sexually & he complains that he is not satisfied most times but he is really trying hard to improve our sex life. He’s a really good guy but I feel like I want to explore because I lost my virginity to him and I haven’t been with anyone else
1. October 2017
Discussing this on my radio tonight #LaidBareLiveOnRadar on radarradio.com at 8pm
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