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Hi Oloni, I have a high and constant level of sexual arousal and my partner just can’t keep up with me. How can I turn it off or down? It’s such a distraction and I’ve thought about sex toys but I’d hate for him to find it and feel emasculated, he has a old school mind set (won’t even go down on me). plus masturbation just doesn’t get me off. I almost feel like I need therapy, I feel like a nymphomaniac in terms of desire. it’s actually affecting me getting on with my day to day life.
26. November 2017
Well, if he’s no satisfying you sexually you might need to think about this relationship carefully. Sex toys aren’t about his ego, it’s about your pleasure. Have a conversation with him and address how you’ve been feeling.
You sound apologetic over your natural desires and you shouldn’t.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m 22 years old and I’ve never had a boyfriend and I’ve only been 1 situationship. I want a GOOD friend with benefits because relationships these days are overrated. I haven’t had sex since February and I’m feeling more erotically charged since then. Any advice?
26. November 2017
Sex is literally everywhere. Join a dating app, get to know someone and over time let them know what you’re interested in. Get tested too and please always use condoms and ask about their last sexual health check.
Oloni
Hi oloni, I’ve got a questions and it is. When I’m masturbasting I can get myself off pretty quick but when I’m being intimate with another person I’ve only ever cummed once and that’s is by thinking of porn and it was with another girl. But the guy will get me wet and then I end up faking cause I get bored. I’ve communicated what I like and I still can’t get there. So my question is, does this happen to anyone else or do I have a problem. IM A GIRL TO MAKE IT CLEAR. Would like the TL to chip in aswell!
15. November 2017
You can get yourself off, because it’s your body and you’ve studied it. I’m sure there’s research which show that women rarely climax through penetrative sex. So calm down lol, you’re not the only one! I do have a couple questions though, when you’re masturbating is it through clitoral on vaginal play? A lot of women cum through clitoral play some both. Work out how you reach your orgasm and try adding that to your sex life. Also, sex toys and longer foreplay does wonders.
No seriously. Wonders.
Good luck
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I’m in a relationship but lately I’ve been finding myself being attracted to someone else. We see each other in social settings and I’ve always had a soft spot for him. Do I tell him just to get it out of my system?
15. November 2017
It’s normal to find other people attraactive, but why would you want to tell him… unless you’re trying to pursue something with him?
You’re in a relationship, but ask yourself if you’re truly happy in your commitment sis.
Oloni
Dear Oloni Now I’m not one to bring my relationship issues out like but honestly Oloni I don’t what to do. So basically I’m in my second year of uni and I have an essay to write, but my laptop is in repair so my boyfriend let me borrow his… so here’s my issue, so I’m working and in the notifications of my boyfriends MacBook I see Dropbox pop up and it says “Wank bank updated” so me being nosey I “accidentally” clicked it and God give me strength Oloni this boy has a folder full of his ex. Nudes, sexy selfies and videos. I don’t know if I should ask him about it or if I should just pretend as if everything is cool. Like Oloni, a whole folder… what do I do?
15. November 2017
“Wank bank” woah lol. Yeah, I’d say talk to him about it, if it makes you uncomfortable. It’s normal to have memories with past lovers, even if they’re both naked. He might even get rid of it.
Oloni
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