I just want to say, whoever you are, I appreciate you for asking this question, because it never happens.

An obvious must, is condoms during vaginal penetration, anal play and oral pleasure. People seem to forget, or perhaps just don’t know that you can still pass on STI’s through oral sex. Try using water based lube with condoms too.

It’s important to get a check up every 3 months, especially if you’re in a relationship and your partner has put you at risk before. Talk to your sexual health nurse more if you have any other questions.

Also, there is a chance that an STI can cause infertility problems. In some cases what happens is that due to some sexual infections being asymptomatic, some women don’t pick up early on the signs that they’ve been infected, (which is exactly why getting check ups are important) because there’s a huge chance that if it goes untreated for a long time, it can lead it scarring that makes it either hard for you to have children, or completely stops you from being able to procreate.

Check out my latest video on sexual health here.

Hey hun, I’m really sorry to hear what you’re going through it’s disgusting and you need to seek help quickly. I’m unsure of where you’re from, but if you do live in the UK please go to your local council and explain your situation. If you don’t want to do that, try reaching out to a friend. This isn’t just for you any more, but your baby. Your experience could put you in great danger, so please put your baby first and do your absolute best to get out of this situation.

Oloni

Thanks for writing in, but please never use an electric toothbrush to masturbate as it’s not designed for that. As for faking it, have a conversation with your partner and tell him you’d like to incorporate sex toys in the bedroom.

It’s normal for many women to fake it and hopefully one day as a collective we’ll decide to stop, lol.. but it isn’t out of the ordinary. Most women can’t climax through penetration, but through clitoral stimulation. In fact there are several studies which prove 25% of women orgasm through vaginal penetration. Go figure.

Oloni

You’re both immature, being in a relationship shouldn’t STOP you from talking to someone of the opposite sex, so long as there’s boundaries and respect. Talk about it.

Oloni

I think you need to work on your self esteem. What would drive you to pretend to be someone you’re not? What you’ve done is dangerous and deceitful. Tell him immediately, and hopefully you can start off fresh.

Oloni