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Hey oloni girl. I’m in a relationship with a man, have been for the last year although he has been in prison for around 9 month now. We speak on the phone a lot but I haven’t seen him since yet his child’s mother is there every week, sometimes more then once a week and even sometimes without their child! Normally I wouldn’t be so suspicious but after reading the dilemma you posted about the guy leaving for his baby mother I’m now a bit concerned. I done a little stalking and found his bm has a NEW tattoo of his name. When I asked him about that he told me they’re ‘bonded’ for life and I should chill which wasn’t the response I was looking for lol I’m starting to think I should forget the whole thing but I do genuinely love him?? I’m confused. And have been losing sleep.
3. January 2018
Okay, are you being forreal? You’re worried about a guy who has to pee in front of other people?? The complaining about his baby mothers new tattoo on the 3rd day of the new year? Out of the goodness
of my heart, I am going to let you restart this year, so you can not only rethink this “dilemma”, but for you to also come up with a new years resolution, because this aint even it, not even close to it.
How are you letting this guy jail talk you, when he’s clearly with another woman? There are millions of other men out there who aren’t locked up, pick one.
Oloni
Oloni, i’ve been speaking to this guy, and we’ve met once. But whenever he asks to meet me, he always wants to be indoors, and he always wants to come to my house, which is out of question for me, so it never happens. I don’t know what way to take this, because the way I see it, he wants to be behind closed doors so he can engage in something sexually, and I don’t want this since everything is still fresh. What should I do?
3. January 2018
Last week you gave me some really sound advice about the guy I was seeing who rapped his own song lyrics in my ear. I forgot to mention that on that particular occasion we didn’t use protection and I was forced to pay £30 for the morning after pill. I was so panicked because I just thought i was pregnant. Anyway I came on my period and I let him in on the good news. He responded with ‘oh that’s kl’ followed by a link to his latest music video so I have officially deaded everything with him. Thank you for helping me see the light. Also this is a completely true story only stuff like this could ever happen to me lol
3. January 2018
Lol wow! He’s very interesting.
Oloni
Hey, Is it cheating if my man adds an attractive girl on snapchat who he isn’t friends with, just to watch her snaps? Because that’s how he justifies adding random ladies he finds attractive but if he has me, why isn’t that enough to look at? I send him snaps, nudes, photos, you name it, so I’m really struggling to understand his reasoning and debating if my relationship should end because of it 🙁 Please Oloni, what would you advise that I do?
3. January 2018
If it bothers you, tell him. It’s weird to add random girls on snapchat unless they’re celebrities I guess. How would he feel if you added random men?
I feel like SC is such an intimate social media platform too.
Talk to him and explain why it makes you feel uneasy.
And to answer your question, it’s not cheating, yet.
Hey Oloni, firstly I don’t want to be giving you my problems without expressing how grateful I am for your platform because you’re awesome! Now onto my dilemma: my boyfriend is divorced but he recently changed his WhatsApp display photo, and it was him at his wedding. He was alone in the photo and I’m assuming it might be because he thinks he looked good/suited and booted, but I’m wondering why he shared that photo? I’ve been concerned that he’s not over his ex wife so seeing that photo has made me think. Even if I ask, my boyfriend insists that he’s moved on but this photo makes me think otherwise. Am I overreacting?
26. December 2017
Thank you for writing in. I’ll be real with you, it’s just a nice photo of himself that he likes. He’s not separated from his exwife, he’s signed papers and agreed to leave a relationship that was once witnessed by many. I don’t think you have anything to worry about.
I think deep down you might dislike the fact he was once married, so because of that, you’re projecting your own insecurities on to him.
Oloni
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