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Hey! So I met this guy a few months ago and he’s literally my dream man, we have so much in common and he doesn’t even know because all we do is fuck. There’s not really any other interaction, he’s clearly not looking for a relationship and that’s fine but I’m just gutted because I could be his dream girl too and some time this whole ‘fucking’ thing is going to end and I’m gonna lose my dream man all because he ain’t wanna talk lol I need to express something like this to him, do you have any tips?
7. January 2018
Heya hun, sounds like you’re super sprung on this lad and you’re probably using sex to stay close to him. If you know he’s not after a relationship, end it before it becomes a situationship.
Oloni
So, there’s this guy who I became friends with last year and he’s basically the sweetest person ever. He constantly doing little things that matter not just for me but for my friends too. The thing is he has never so much as mentioned that he wanted a relationship with me or anything but then I recently realized that I have feelings for him. Now I am considering talking to him and asking him if we have a future together, but then I’ve been over thinking what if he doesn’t have feelings for me and I make things awkward? Anyway what do you suggest I do? Talk to him or remain quiet?
5. January 2018
How about asking him out on a date first?
Oloni
So I’ve I started dating this guy and he doesn’t know I’ve done porn before. I’ve left that industry but it still haunts me. I really really like him but every time I’ve entered into a relationship with someone they’ve found out my old videos and told the guy. I feel like I may have found the one, what do I do?
5. January 2018
Hey hun! Thanks for writing in, I can see why you’re worried, especially since we still live in a society that still slutshames women heavily.
The best thing you can do is tell him, because if it’s already out there, there’s a huge chance he too will come across it. I don’t think you should allow it to haunt you either, you did porn because you felt comfortable doing it and hopefully empowered too.
I have friends in the porn industry who are in happy relationships, so I don’t want you feel like you’re not capable of finding someone who will accept you, for who you are.
Oloni
im gay as FUCK but im black and christian lmao… my parents are super religious always at church etc… but basically i was at church on sunday and met a peng guy, anyway short story short we ended up suckin each other in church umm yep, what tf do i do lmao
5. January 2018
LOL sounds lit.
Just messing, exactly what is your dilemma? Is it to do with your parents and your sexuality, or the fact that you’ve met someone?
Oloni
Dated a guy briefly 5 years ago, reconnected as friends in the last few months. No romantic feelings on either end. But in the 5 years he has a new good friend, and he and I definitely have chemistry. He’s friended me on just about everything, we matched on tinder, and we can text for hours on end. Should I ask him out? I think he may be holding back out of some weirdness about his best friend having dated me way back when.
4. January 2018
Ask him out for drinks during the weekend, there’s def something there.
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