Make your priority meeting her first so you can actually tell if you really like her or not, as for whether she’s sleeping with anybody else, my dear that’s none of your business. Try asking her out on a date.

You’re going to have to speak to him sooner or later as this isn’t a guy you randomly met in a club, he’s clearly a good friend of yours. You’ve already established why you’re avoiding him and that’s because you’ve recently discovered you have feelings for him. Be honest and let him know what the deal really is. Yes, you both had a conversation about how nothing can happen between the two of you, but things can change, can’t they?

Cyclical relationships. There is nothing about this type of relationship that doesn’t cause your head to spin – not the stomach surging highs, the soul crushing lows or even that moment in between where the chaos has settled down and you actually feel like you are in a fully functioning relationship for once. You continue to go back and forth – you leave, to come back, to leave again… read more HERE

Hey,

Nope you’re not over exaggerating. It’s rude and it shows he either doesn’t have respect for women in general or a certain type of woman which are both as bad as each other. I just think you need to sit down with him and make it explicitly clear the use of that word makes you uncomfortable and it’s making you look at him differently. What you choose to do in response is on you.

-Ebi. A

I always think with these things if you can’t leave for yourself think of how you’d feel bringing kids into this environment? Presuming this is the man you had hoped to spend your life with. Just imagine that environment. You know exactly what you need to do and although it may be painful, these things are often not as complicated as we, with all our emotions, make them out to be. You are not his mother. So you do not have to provide a roof for him. Has it ever crossed your mind that he actually doesn’t love or respect you and he’s actually just with you for convenience? After all you do everything his mother should be doing for him and on top of that you do everything a girlfriend would be doing for him but you’ve lost yourself in the process. What scumbag wouldn’t be with a girl who accepts his cheating ways (accepts in the sense that you’re still there despite all your “empty” threats of leaving?) And you know what’s worse he will continue to cheat on you and find a girl who “respects herself” (that’s the phrase all scumbags love so don’t be surprised if he uses those words to describe the new girl) and act right for her? and blame all his cheating ways on the fact that “you let him?’ without ever taking responsibility for his actions? That’s exactly how guys like this act and if on the odd occasion he chooses to marry you, you think for one second he will stop all of a sudden? You need to learn how to love yourself again. You do not deserve to be treated like dirt. You need to discover what self love is again. You will also find that there are so many other options out there, so many guys willing to love you the way you wish to be loved, don’t you ever underestimate that. Maybe you’re just not tired enough, eventually you’ll get there but you don’t want that to be when he get’s another girl pregnant or brings you an STD for Christmas. (lets be real, he is not having protected sex with all these girls). So girl run far away from him and find yourself again, it’s not easy but it’s worth it. So as for practical things to do, demand he moves out, get family or close friends involved if he refuses to cooperate. Block him on all social networks, even change your phone number, surround yourself with all your friends and distract yourself if you can with things you love gym, food, friends, anything that works for you. Ps. when you drop a shit guy your skin begins to glow, trust me. Best of luck.

-Ebi. A