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I have been seeing a guy since the end of last year. We have consistently been in touch since then, meeting up on numerous occasions. However, when I last spoke to him, which was last week, he mentioned he has been busy with work and feeling stressed out. It has now been a week since our last conversation. Should I give him space and hope he will reach out, or do you have any other suggestions?
29. February 2024
Forget him he’s no longer interested
Hi Oloni, last week my boyfriend of 7 years told me he needed to come clean that he’d cheated on me a couple of times in the second year of our relationship. He says as we’re planning our future together it’s fair that I have all the information and he basically begged for my forgiveness and said he had changed. He used to have a drink problem and mental health issues but he’s better now and says it hasn’t happened in years. Do I give him another chance? Other than this our relationship has been amazing
29. February 2024
I think it’s unfair he’s only telling you now. Honestly the choice is yours. Is this something you can see yourself working through with him or will it be hard? Give yourself time to think but don’t let his begging be a deciding factor
He wants me to eat his ass but doesn’t wanna shave it. Wtf! Guys are significantly hairier than girls and I think it’s fair considering it’s an asshole. He keeps bugging me but I refuse until he does. Am I being extra?
29. February 2024
Why would you even want to eat ass in the first place? Now he doesn’t even wanna prep. If he’s not listening he’s harassing.
oloni
I have 2 guys I’m seeing, a main one and another ive started seeing recently (they know about each other). They both dont like doing anything on V-day, but I happened to go out on a date with the new guy, and I hadnt spoken to the other all day. Normally it wouldnt matter but on the date, we were filmed for some tiktok thing and now I’m nervous. Should I tell my main guy in advance? Although he’s not on social media so I doubt he’d see it but I am a bit conflicted 😅
29. February 2024
I don’t personally think you need to say anything especially if he’s not your bf?? Is your main serious about exclusivity??
oloni
Hey Oloni..I’ve been with my boyfriend going on 2 & half years now, we met at work. We built up a really close friendship first and then feelings grew and we began dating. About 6months into the relationship he told me he was bisexual at first I was abit taken back because I didn’t expect it at all, he told me he hadn’t told all of his friends and family because of the culture & type of household he’s been raised in..he didn’t feel comfortable to tell them. After I got over the intial shock I told him that it didn’t change anything.. Everything has been fine ever since..About four months ago a new colleague joined our workplace and him and my boyfriend have developed a close friendship and work together regularly, recently they started hanging out outside of work all the time. At first I didn’t think anything of it because my bf is an introvert type of guy so I even encouraged him to step outside his comfort zone and I felt the friendship would be good for him. A friend has recently told me that our colleague is gay and that he has expressed that he has a crush on my boyfriend and feels it may be mutual. I don’t know what to do about the situation, my bf & I have not really discussed anything about his sexuality, since that initial conversation.. he doesn’t like to talk about the topic. I no longer feel comfortable with the friendship but they still have to work together side by side everyday. I don’t know how to approach the situation.. any advice please ?
23. January 2024
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