Hey love, there could be a number of reasons why you might be feeling itchy. My advice would be to book an appointment with a sexual health nurse immediately.

Oloni

Congratulations!! I think it’s beautiful you’ve both decided to wait. It also shows other people reading this, that they too can be celibate or abstain till they’re ready.

As you mentioned you have the whole of your lives to understand what the other enjoys sexually, so my advice is to be patient with yourselves. If it doesn’t feel like fireworks the first time do not worry, being fairly new to sex will not make you an expert. You might have a few hiccups, you might also have so much chemistry that you hit it off well the first time.

See it as a sexual journey for both of you. Enjoy foreplay before becoming intimate. I can’t emphasise enough how important it is. Without foreplay, there is no real sex. Invest time into learning about each others bodies, so you can both understand what turns you on.

Try getting a small vibrator for clitoral pleasure, water based lubricant and condoms.

Enjoy!

Oloni

I don’t care about your sister’s dating history, sisters do not go after guys that their siblings like. It’s a rule which doesn’t need to be discussed. Right now you’re just going to do what you can, to try and push to get over it. Distract yourself, keep yourself busy, date other men and ask sis not to talk to you about him, cus she will try to.

I hope you meet someone soon!

Oloni

I think it’s important to tell him if you’ve had a scare, and especially if the results are positive. You were both involved so it’s only fair he knows. The only time I’d suggest being discreet about it, is if you felt you could be in danger.

Oloni

I understand why it makes you uncomfortable, have a conversation with him and express how you feel. Would he be okay if you were going on a trip with a bunch of male friends only??

Open your mouth and talk before his flight gate closes.

Oloni