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My boyfriend wont speak about his sexual past. I know from mutuals that hes slept with quite a few girls nd i said to him i would like to know about it as he may be friends with or have frequent contact with them and I feel weird being in the dark. I said to him I dont want to be in a situation where a girl may be there and I am oblivious and he said ‘thats life’. He also doesn’t want to know anything at all about my past. Should I be concerned? 17. June 2018

Let it go. If this was the other way round I’d say the same.

I’ll make this an Ask Oloni on twitter also.

Oloni

Hey oloni, a few weeks ago i was about to lose my virginity to the guy i’m seeing, when it got to getting it in, he went soft. I was angry and upset since It was a big deal to put myself in that position in the first place. I asked him what happened and he said he got nervous and wanted it to be special and that he feels upset because he feels i might view him differently. I know he gets hard around me and cums from oral, but i cant help but think i’m to blame? He’s not a virgin so i’m struggling to understand why this would happen. I want to try again next week however i’m scared if he goes soft again? And it’ll really hurt my feelings. Any advice? Thanks x 17. June 2018

Heya! He could be feeling under pressure and nervous as he mentioned. It is normal for some guys to find it difficult to maintain an errection when they feel like that. Same thing happens to some guys when under the influence of alcohol/drugs.

He was honest with you so give him a break, as it can be quite embarrassing. If it does happen in the future, try reassuring him by being positive about the situation.

The reality about sex is, that no matter how many times you’ve experienced it, you still don’t want to be put in weird position whereby you’re letting your sexual partner(s) down.

As for you, simply try again. Encourage longer foreplay. Enjoy a good 20 minutes of strictly kissing, touching, stroking, oral sex etc before penetration. This will help heighten both your sexual feelings aka make you hornier lol.

Enjoy.. and use protection.

oloni

My man owes me a lot of money and I don’t know what to do 17. June 2018

Ask him for it, set up a financial payment plan and try not lend money you can’t afford to lose.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, I’ve been seeing my man for some time now and he’s told me he wants me to be his baby mama basically. I said we can discuss it when we’re more secure and have our own place but I’m certain that I never want to have kids. I know this will be a deal breaker for him. Do I tell him or should I just wait until it next comes up? I don’t want to lose him but I’m certain my mind won’t change. 17. June 2018

You have to let hin go my love. It’s selfish to do anything other than that.

Oloni

Hey Oloni, so there’s this girl right, we’ve been friends but of late we’ve been doing dates, at first I thought it was lunch but now she wants a dinner date and actually calls it a “date”, the dilemma here is that she gives the right signals but because she’s my friend first I feel she could be using me for attention and for the little financial services I sort out like UberEATS, etc… so as a guy totally confused here, maybe you could share some light as to what the hell is going on here. 17. June 2018

I have a couple of questions! Is there ever any intimacy between the two of you, or is the friendship completely platonic?

If it’s the latter, she’s definitely getting a wee bit too comfortable lol.

Talk to her and ask what’s going on and if she’s actually interested in you. Male friends can pick up the bill, but not alll the time… even when dating actually

Oloni

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