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Hi Oloni, so recently I’ve come across some shocking content on my boyfriend of three years laptop. Through looking in his history I have found consistent searches of trans related porn. I am in state in shock and have no idea how to approach this situation.
29. June 2018
Hey hun, there could be a number of reasons why your boyfriend was checking it out. It could have been out of curiosity, a fetish etc. He’s allowed to look at any type of porn he wants, even if it might make you uncomfortable, as long as it’s in his own private time.
Ask him about what “stumbled” across and see how her responds to get a more accurate idea.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. I did something rather trash.. I sent nudes and made advances to a guy my friend was seeing. Yeah, I knew she was seeing him but me and him built our own friendship and it led to more. Anyway, I think someone knows. The chat was saved on his phone and screenshots were taken. I don’t think it’s her, she would’ve gone crazy by now and I don’t talk to him. Do I come clean or keep it quiet? They’re really happy and basically together now
29. June 2018
That was rather trash! Why would you do that? was your intention to STEAL him?
I think you should come clean and give whatever is left from the friendship some space. You also need some time to really think about what drove you to doing that. Was it jealousy? Was it the lack of love interest? Why?
Oloni
Hi Oloni!! I’m 18, and I lost my virginity when I was 17, but I hadn’t had sex since then until recently. I was wondering if it was normal to feel bloated for a day or two afterwards! A few of my friends said they usually feel bloated after sex, but none of them have had it last as long as I have. Could it just be unrelated to sex and I’m just relating it because it’s the only explanation for me?? I know you might not be able to answer, but I thought I would see what you think/suggest!
29. June 2018
Heya hun, it could be the sex and could also be unrelated. I think it’d best to see a sexual health nurse just to be on the safe side and if you still have any more worries.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, I’ve recently started seeing a guy and we’ve really hit it off. We’ve already had sex multiple times and I’m not saying it isn’t good, but it’s starting to feel like we have to fuck every time we hangout. I wannabe able to hangout and just enjoy each other’s presence. I know he likes me, from what he’s said and how he acts, but I don’t want it to be all about the sex. What do I do?
29. June 2018
Heya, you’ve created a sexual routine with him, so that’s all he’ll expect, unless you speak up about it. The best thing to do is mention it and try going out dates.
Oloni
my boyfriend is still friends with his ex they took each other’s virginity and recently dated again, he’s told me now that he still meets up with her to have a smoke, maybe once a week. Do I just need to trust him? I’ve suggested about meeting her but I don’t know if she will want to.
27. June 2018
They’re way too comfortable with each other and I feel like boundaries need to be set. I actually think he’s probably sleeping with her.
would he be ok if you met up with a new ex who also once took your virginity, so they can smoke?
If I’m meeting up with a guy to smoke once a week, we’re probably fucking, sooo wise up!
Oloni
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