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Hey oloni, so basically I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and we’ve had our ups and downs but most recently our main problem is that he’s constantly talking to females on social media. At first I didn’t really care too much because I thought that maybe I was overreacting and that they were just innocent conversations but I’ve seen them and these aren’t conversations that you would have if you were in a relationship, especially if the females he’s talking to don’t know that he’s in a relationship. I’ve spoken about it to him several times and he says that they don’t mean anything and that he just speaks to them when he’s bored. But I’ve gotten to the point where even though he says they don’t mean anything it’s makes me uncomfortable, what do you think I should do since I’ve already told him how I feel?
3. June 2018
If he’s having conversations which are disrespecting your relationships, you need to have another think about this relationship my dear, cus he’s not listening to you.
Oloni
Hello oloni,so my bf and my close friend were snapchatting the same street dancer today which means they were in the same place. i figured it was a coincidence and one of them would say they spotted eachother but no one has said anything. i have now shown my man the snap from her asking if they bumped into eachother and he’s gotten angry and said London is a big place. what do i do?
3. June 2018
He got a bit too defensive. Speak to your “close friend” and see what they say.
Oloni
hi oloni! i’ve been seeing this guy for a couple months but I still can’t find a way to open up. i’m a very reserved person but I like him and know in order not to lose him i need to become more comfortable and transparent. any tips on how to open up to a guy or get to know a guy better?
3. June 2018
Heya hun, opening up isn’t always the easiest for many of us and I think you should let him know this about yourself, so he doesn’t think you’re not into it.
Try asking him questions in order to know him better, in return he’ll probably ask the same question back, giving you a chance to feel more comfortable and respond. Be patient with yourself and hopefully over some time, you should see a difference. Baby steps.
Oloni
I want to start having more casual sex but where do I meet the guys to do so?
3. June 2018
They’re everywhere. Bars, clubs, dating apps, social media, shops, the gym, church, friend of a friend, reading this dilemma.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, so I met this guy in LA, we hit it straight off and I kinda slept with him on the first night thinking I’d never see him again, a few days later we’re meeting up whilst I’m traveling in San Francisco, then he comes to London a week later on his way through and we meet up again. It’s all very coincidental. Me thinking I really liked him stupidly agreed to make a sex tape with him. I get too ahead of myself thinking that all this stuff happens for a reason… now he isn’t replying to my texts! What should I do? Half of me wants to go crazy and get him to delete it, (just Incase I meet someone I like anytime soon) the other half just wants his attention
3. June 2018
Heya hun, ohh nooo! It’s so important to be careful with who you allow to film you during intimacy. I do think you should try calling him (hopefully he answers) and make it clear you’d like the video deleted. You should also try texting him and instead of doing the “hey, just checking in”, communicate you want the video gone.
Allow this to be a lesson sis, we all make silly mistakes. It’s fun in the moment, but there’s always that chance you could potentially regret it.
It’s also illegal for video/images of nudity/sex to be uploaded onto the internet or even passed around without permission. So if anything did happen, you could report him to the police immediately.
Oloni
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