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Hi Oloni, need some advice because I’m feeling like a terrible person:( I been with my boyfriend 2 years and in that time we’ve gotten a lot closer of course. He went through a rough patch financially and emotionally (were both students) and I supported him as much as I could. He’s really into music (rapping) but in my opinion I don’t think he’s that good and I haven’t got the heart to tell him that! However he’s trying to improve and is doing free performances. My problem is that he’s getting a little more attention and I feel like it’s getting to his head and I’m no longer his number 1 priority ands it driving me crazy and making we wish he doesn’t succeed in music. I feel so bad saying it but I can’t help how I feel. How can I bring this up to him without it sounding like I want him to fail?! Than you x
28. August 2018
Woah. I think it’s time you call the relationship quits. What you just explained sounds like you’re not happy for him or what brings him happiness. It’s very selfish and self centered.
Oloni
My boyfriends breath smells so bad and it really puts me off. I don’t even want to kiss him and when we’re getting intimate or having sex I need to turn away from him because his breath just repulses me. I don’t understand because he is a really clean person, so good looking, 10/10 and always smells good, but his breath is just disgusting. One time I even left his house because his breath was just pissing me off. I love him so much and I see myself having a future with him, but how do I deal with this issue?
28. August 2018
Oh gosh. The best thing you can do is to be straightforward and tell him. When you’re in a relationship and love that person, we’re worried about hurting our partners feelings.. But you can’t let him go around with smelly breath. He’ll literally embarrass you in front of others as well as himself.
There should be a level of familiarity couples should have so they can be honest about each others hygiene on top of other things. Just communicate and perhaps suggest he see a dentist.
Hi advice please😩, so my friend had sex with a guy I was seeing TWICE first time she cried and said how sorry she was, then did it two days after and told me in front of everyone else laughing about it, was never really spoke or discussed again, This happened a few months ago but I just can’t get past it I am no longer speaking to the boy do I dead the friendship too? Thankyou x
12. August 2018
Hey Oloni, my boyfriend and I were having a conversation about myself wanting a vibrator. At first he was like why? So I said I like exploring my body and I’m getting tired of using my hands. He was like ‘cool, you do you’. I know from his ‘cool’ he has an issue with it. The problem is when he has an issue with something he closes up straight away and be blunt. So, the next day I was like what’s the problem why haven’t we spoken all morning, he started off on one saying that he doesn’t feel like he’s satisfying me at all. My response was that I am a female I love my body and I enjoy it. So I don’t see what’s the problem? Please can you help me understand what I’ve said wrong?
12. August 2018
You haven’t done anything wrong, he’s threatened that you’ll reach an orgasm in other ways. This is what happens when men think all women climax through vaginal penetration alone.
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Hey Oloni, I’m a little embarrassed to speak about this but I really need your advice. My boyfriend of three months isn’t all over me. You’d think its a new relationship so they’ll look for every moment to have their hands all over you. But he doesn’t even have sex with me never mind kissing. Whenever I’m about to lean for a kiss he blocks it and will go to sleep. He wakes up in the morning for morning sex but that’s just about it & that too he’ll jerk himself off after a little while. I don’t know what to think? Is he not sexually attracted to me or is he gay? You’d think he’ll end it because it’s still a fairly new relationship. He’s made me feel really insecure and made me feel I’m not sexually appealing. Your advice?
12. August 2018
I understand what you mean. During the honeymoon period you expect you and your partner to be all over each other.
Was he always like this or is your libido higher than his?
He could be gay, he could also just not be sexually attracted to you at certain times.
The best thing to do is talk to him about how you feel!
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