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My man doesn’t like it when i look at him when I’m giving him head, he says its makes him nervous? Is this normal? 11. September 2018

I’ve never heard of this before if I’m honest. Is he awkward with eye contact during other forms of intimacy?

Oloni

My boyfriend is 22 and keeps failing college and is jobless. I’m trying to be this typical ride or die girl but I’m in debt and being held back. It’s so sad when I love him but don’t know how to go forward with this apart from letting go? What would you do Oloni? XX 11. September 2018

Dump him?¿

Oloni

Hey oloni so ive been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and I recently moved in with him. I’m jamaican and he’s nigerian the thing is his family are always over which is calm i get on with his mum sometimes but when his mum and aunts are over they’re always chatting in their language and I don’t understand Yoruba so it makes me uncomfortable. I actually think they’re chatting about me sometimes. I told his mum that they should speak English around me cus its bare rude. My boyfriend told me off and said it’s disrespectful and i look like I don’t have manners. Was i wrong? 31. August 2018

Woah. I think your approach was wrong, but your concerns are very fair. You should have told your man how you felt, so he could fix the situation. Yoruba is probably their first language so comes to them naturally.

Try apologising to his mum and express that you felt left out in the convos. Have a conversation with your man and apologise to him if he felt disrespected too.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, I really love your platform and the safe space you’ve created for women to just talk frankly. Recently found out I got genital warts from a partner although we used protection. I’m undergoing treatment but I’m really worried about how future sexual partners will take this. How do I let a guy know without putting them off? I feel so disgusting. Thank you x 31. August 2018

Heya! Thanks for writing in. Genital warts are a common STI and can be passed on through skin to skin contact.

It’s great that you’re getting the treatment and also very important for your health.

When it comes to disclosing it with new sexual partners, you should always do it before having sex and explaining what it is.

As long as you finish your treatment and see a nurse again you’ll be fine. Just always use protection.

Oloni

Hey Oloni, i’m really hoping you can advise me on this. The guy i’ve been seeing for 4 months asked to be exclusive; which i agreed to. However we live 2 hours away from each other and he works and i’m starting Uni again but we are trying to spend more weekends together. He lacks emotional intelligence and stops replying as much when things get hard for him. I explained to him i’m here for him but he just said its a ‘guy thing’ to not to talk about emotions. When we see each other in person everything is amazing but his communication online sucks and i’ve made him aware of this before. What do i do? 31. August 2018

I’ll be honest, I don’t see long distance working if his communication with you is quite bad. He needs to be on his own so he can improve his qualities such as opening up and learning how to connect with a love interest.

Oloni

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