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Hi there, basically my partner and I had our first child about 18 months ago. She’s gained some weight (nothing drastic) but she’s suuuper self conscious about it. She was a real gym freak before hand so I can understand why she might feel a way about it but she still looks amazing and I remind her of this often. Not long ago she told me that she wanted to go to DR for lipo. She had done loads of research and seemed to have her heart set on it. She only works part time to it in with caring for our son and so has said that I should pay for it. We make all financial decisions together and I feel no way about the whole “my money is ours” kind of things because we are family. However I think this is just a criminal waste of money, completely unnecessary and nothing more than a vanity project. When i said no she got really rude and she still wont let it go and at this stage I have no clue what to say to her.
12. August 2018
You’re going to have to compromise some way. No matter what her reasoning for it is, this is clearly something that will help build her confidence especially after having a baby and it sounds as though she’s very commited to this cosmetic procedure. Try having another conversation with her about it. With what she’s gone through it just sounds like she really needs your support.
Oloni
Oloni hopefully you see this soon, but my boyfriend just sent me bare angry texts cus apparently i’m “thirsting” over tion waynes dick print pics. I liked one tweet which he screenshotted and sent me. It said something like “imagine getting backshots from tion wayne all kinds of guts would get touched” I didn’t even tweet it. We’ve been together for only 5 months and now he aint answering my calls. What should I do?
8. August 2018
Heya love! You have to talk about boundaries with your partner of what is and isn’t acceptable. Being in the relationship for x amount of months doesn’t matter. As soon as you become exclusive there are things you can and can’t really do. As long as he keeps the same energy it’s all good. Call him tomorrow and have a conversation about it.
I asked my bf for money and he’s been quiet for 2 days. Ignoring me. Was I wrong? And am I wrong in thinking he could atleast have responded and said he doesn’t want to rather than go mia? Also what should I do now
8. August 2018
I don’t get why he went quiet, surely he could have simply said yes or no. Give him some time and see what he has to say.
Hey so I asked for advice about a guy who I liked who has chlamydia, turns out my results were negative. I don’t know if I can trust him again , but I really miss the sex *crying face*. What do I do ?
3. August 2018
How do you know he had chlamydia? You should also return to the clinic in another two weeks and get tested again. I also hope when you took the test you told the nurses you were intimate with someone who had an STI so they can give you the antibiotics.
As for missing the sex? How can you miss anything which harmed your sexual health?
Oloni
Hi Oloni. Any advice on what to look out for in open relationships. About to start one for the first time and would like some tips or something. Done some research already but would appreciate your point of view. Thanks
3. August 2018
Heya! It’s best to just be positive about the situation, always be honest with your partners(s) and ask that it be reciprocated at all times. Every type of relationship requires patience, so remember that and you’ll be fine. Also, remember to always communicate.
Oloni
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